Being laughed at
I was laughed at for admitting that I had depression and was suicidal.
I don’t know what to even make of this.
This person went on to tell me that if I were depressed and or suicidal, that I wouldn’t be talking about it. That I would have taken my life.
I am sure that some of us have heard of those who suicide without warning signs ever being noticed. This has happened to me, (a dear friend).
The laughing has me bewildered. Who does this?
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I am sorry you are experiencing this. Some people are so heartless and unfortunately blissfully ignorant...
The stigma surrounding suicide is probably why this person has acted this way. This is why it needs to be changed and awareness needs to spread - and why BB is here. If you ever need to reach out - come to the forums or contact the helpline on 1300 22 4636.
Keep your head and know that all of us would never laugh - we are here for you. You are loved! and how you feel is valid - not laughable at all. I am sorry to hear about this. Some people are so heartless.
Here to talk,
Im so sorry this happened to you.
This person doesn’t understand mental health and really doesn’t know what they are talking about.
Please disregard what they have said to you because it deserves to be thrown away like trash and put in the bin where it belongs.
You are human and you are loved.
Im sorry you have been feeling this way, I understand it’s difficult.
Please know we are here to support you, please reach out to us anytime.
I think these type of comments are just ignorance. They come from people who can't understand because they have not yet experienced it. They judge because they have had bad periods and feel like those who have reached depression and/or ideation are just not coping as well as they do with the same emotions or are attention seeking.
I had an attempt in my teens. A few months after when I was doing a bit better, my Dad asked me why I was seeking attention. He thought anyone attempting is only doning it for attention. He didn't mean to hurt me with the comment and he has now experienced depression and ideation himself as a result of a untreatable cancer diagnosis. He is much more supportive now.
Now that I think about it, these thoughts would come and go even in my teens. I often thought that if life got too hard that I would go.
In my 50’s now and life has been hard and I have always had the feeling that I was living life for others and not for myself. Why did I and why would I suffer so much. I was never in control of my own life. I had choices thrust upon me.
I honestly think that I would not be missed, except by my children, maybe. Even they only contact me when they need something. I am always there for them.
So the only reason keeping me here is the dreaded thought my children will really need me one day and that I won’t be here to help them. That and I don’t want to hurt them.
I know that they care but I don’t and can’t look to them for support.
The person who laughed at me is immature and still lives at home with his mother. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Suppose he thought that I just wanted sympathy or something. I have now severed ties with this person as they were emotionally draining.
Some people laugh when something makes them nervous or challenges them. It doesn't always mean they think it's funny, it can mean they simply have no clue what to say. If you feel this person is immature that makes it seem more likely to me that this is what happened here.
In any case, you can't control what other people do, you can only control yourself. I'm also 53, and pretty isolated. It can be tough, but you'll get there. I assume you mentioning only your kids means you are not married? Have you thought about dating again? I got on dating sites recently, assuming no woman would want to talk to me, and I made several good friends and had a relationship within 6 months. I'm no prize, I can assure you 🙂 There's lots of lonely people out there, the hard part is meeting someone, if it's friendship or romance
I agree with That Other Guy, it is never to late to start living for yourself. Younger people can be judgemental about these things but that doesn't matter.
My Dad was staying in a relationship he hated because he didn't believe anyone would want him. He quickly found out that there are lots of lonely people wanting to make a connection. There are so many people around that you could make a connection with, who would miss you if you were not around. It doesn't have to be a romantic relationship if you are not interested in that at the moment. You just need to weed through the ungrateful or self absorbed people.
My Nanna became lonely in her 80's she made a relationship with a nice man, older than her. They didn't live together but he came to her house at least a few times a week. She lived to be 96 and he lived into his 90's as well. They had over 5 years together before he could no longer keep in contact. It's never to late.
I am still married and have been separated on and off from my husband of 35 years since 2018.
Covid isolation and lockdowns bought us back together, but I am not happy being back in the situation that I fled from.
I am in no way even slightly interested in forming new connections with anyone.
I am still dealing with the suicide of a close male friend.
I don’t have the emotional capacity to deal with anyone else, especially with someone new.