Celebrating?

[Outcast]

• Hello, hope everybody out there is keeping their minds in check & not falling into trenches.

Not sure what compelled me to come out here, todays christmas which I know is "make believe", where we gather, to forgive, to open gifts, to celebrate etc, today's been kinda of dull day which might come off as desperation which is not what i like to come off as, im just curious to know what are we actually celebrating & why does it have to be a specific occasion to forgive & be compassionate for one another on specific occasions, can't it just be everyday, doesn't that make more sense?

Especially when it comes to hanging out with family, I just see it as a title where those same people would move on & find any reason to single you out from various reasons, i try to not let it bother me but it just cant be helped, im in my 20's & its been going on for several years now, i dont know if others suffer in the same cohort, maybe due to how things turned out since the coming years as let's be honest, things haven't really been looking promising in terms of what the future holds & how everything is expensive where we have less buying power & more hostility.

Now im not much of a interesting guy which does play into social rank, where often times, im singled out & forced to remain in solitude all the time, then I end up stuck with the fact that nobody last with each other as time goes.

I just dont know why everything has to be rocket science all the time when it comes to socialism, besides theres hardly anything to do unless youre gonna be spending money on things & not to sound boring but how can anybody be spending in a time like this, especially when renting.

Anyways thats all for now.

Thank you

[Sophie_M]

Hi Outcast,

Thank you for sharing such an honest reflection. You’re right, the holidays can sometimes feel a bit forced or empty, especially when things like forgiveness and compassion are treated as seasonal rather than everyday acts.

It makes sense that being around family or social expectations might feel uncomfortable or isolating, especially if you’ve been singled out or misunderstood before. Many people find it hard to stay connected when the world feels so uncertain and expensive, it’s not just you feeling that.

It’s great that you came here to talk about it, and I hope you find others who can relate. Sometimes starting small, connecting online, joining a local interest group, or even just chatting here can make things feel a little less heavy.

If you ever find that these feelings of disconnection start getting too heavy, you can always reach out to the Beyond Blue Support Service (1300 22 4636 or via webchat at beyondblue.org.au). They’re available 24/7 to listen and help you find your footing again.

You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to question what all of this means sometimes that’s the first step toward finding what does matter to you.

Take care,
Sophie M

[melodica]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It makes sense to wonder why the spirit of forgiveness, generosity, and care that we talk about at Christmas isn’t how we treat each other all year. For many people, this season brings pressure, grief, loneliness, or memories that don’t match the “peace and joy” message. It can feel like a standard that's expected for a few days and then forgotten.

Those values you mentioned do matter every day. They don’t need a special date to be real. Sometimes the most meaningful thing is practising them in ordinary moments. Things like setting boundaries, apologising when we can, offering kindness without losing ourselves, or simply choosing not to carry someone else’s harm any further.

If Christmas doesn’t feel like a celebration, that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Everyone comes to it with their own history. You’re allowed to honour what’s true for you and live those values in ways that feel genuine, at whatever pace you can.