Dear Fishies~
Not to have an accurate believable appraisal of one's work leaves on in limbo. There are some jobs where one can easily judge one's performance in terms of numbers, in others it is a matter of how others perceive you
I am guessing you have one of this second group and have to rely upon your boss's words -which sounded positive. You may have an instinct they were insincere, though how much of that was justified gut-feeling and much due to anxiety I don't know. You probably have a better idea of how you have felt about other things in the past.
I would think you might be able ot get some better idea from a third party, either a colleague, or even your partner.
May I ask if you enjoy your job and get satisfaction out of it, or is it simply a matter of finances and maybe the convenience of both of you working in the same place?
I've been lucky and managed to be in positions I enjoyed, and that makes a huge difference. If you are unhappy where you are there is nothing to stop you casting around to see if there is something you might enjoy more.
Do you think the whole matter is something you can talk over with your partner and gain support? It does make a difference.
If you felt like letting us know how you get on that would be great
Croix
