Work stress, family stress, responsibilities

[Pyrolee]

Hi
I'm under an immense amount of stress but trying my best to keep composed and getting by as happily as possible. I'm currently married and have a 3 month old. I'm just under a large amount of stress trying to provide for my family, wanting to purchase my first home with my wife but can't due to my wifes visa restriction and the government not helping or giving us any information about it. We literally get no help from the government and keep getting answers like just wait just wait when it's been nearly 7 years with no answers or explanations. My work also is contributing to my stress, the work load and work is fine its my boss who's making my life a living hell. He's tried to dodge paying my weekly wages, gets very aggressive and abusive out of nowhere. So far my solution for work is to leave this job to deal with this stress and also don't want to work for an abusive boss, but the problem I have now is this government issue, I feel like I've been told we should only care and do things within our reach and this issue I feel like it's out of my reach due to negligence and incompetent workers which is effecting my life and my familys life, not sure what to do next. I feel like I'm letting my family down

[NoFoulPlay]

Hi Pyrolee, If your main issue is the boss and work, I would suggest starting to find a replacement job in the hopes that it will be a perfect fit for you, and then, only then, that your finances might start getting better, once you're happy with what you're doing surrounded by workmates and possibly a supportive boss, because if you're not happy with work and boss, that will contribute to your stress level, which will have domino effects on your family and plans for the future.

I can relate, because I'm also under duress with work EVERYDAY and I feel like an impostor, I always think about it every night before going to bed, that's probably why I only get 2 hours of sleep, coupled with overthinking about my family setup and the lack of family support, being alone in this country. I'm renting and the pressure of work, the landlord, the bills and my miserable life are all adding up, so my anxiety is up the roof all the time, but I'm trying to just keep it together and focus on my work, sometimes hoping that they should just fire me so I can get some redundancy pay and take a break for a few months. 

Just plan your next steps, fix your CV, start sending your job applications, BUT don't quit your job yet until you find a replacement, so that you don't have to stress about being jobless and paying the bills. 

[Mark Z.]

Hi Parolee,

First of all I congrats on becoming a father!

I'm sorry for your challenge. I can tell that you have made so much efforts and really respect that. So don't blame yourself cause you're trying your best.

I'm not a visa professional but regarding your work I think you are right. It's too hard to handle pressure from work and life at the same time for anybody. It is a good idea to start the preparation for job search. It's a good timing as you will have around 1.5 months to consider what should be the next step of your career and make yourself more prepared for the interview. From mid Feb there will be more opportunities on the job market. 

Mark