Why

[Nic76nic]

Wish I could stop being me.

Always anxious about everything.why dont i have many friends always worried

[PamelaR]

Hello Guest 4928

Awww, you do sound down. Anxiety can be the pits can't it. Really good you've found your way to Beyond Blue forums. People here are friendly, caring, supportive and respect individual's privacy.

Building friendships is quite hard - it takes time, effort and commitment. In my 60 odd years of life, I've found - you have to work at it. Friends don't just happen. It probably did at school, but that was because the environment was right. You had to sit next to someone during class, be in a sport and pair up. These situations give you that opportunity if you're paired with a like minded person. When you're not, it means finding other like minded people. through - interests (e.g. dancing, music), sport (e.g. tennis, swimming).

The anxiety that comes from participating in these activities can be extreme at times. So it's learning how to manage the symptoms to help you start to build friendships.

There is a range of material available about how you can manage anxiety:

Do a google search: Anxiety - beyond blue

You should find some useful hints.

Let us know if we can help further, or you just want to discuss stuff.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[Gardenlady]

Hi Guest 4928,

You sounds like you are pretty sad right now. I’m sorry you are not feeling the best.

It can be so hard and lonely feeling anxious all of the time and not having friends to talk to about these overwhelming feelings and also to share our happy times with.

I feel these feelings too. I don’t have a lot of friends either due to being mentally unwell for so long. But I do have people in my life that care for me in my family and at my work. Sometimes our family and coworkers can be our greatest friends. Friendships can be in many ways with anyone. Do you have any people like this in your life? If not, is there a hobby group you can join near your house at least so you can get some caring social interaction over a common interest. Friendships might form from there.

If you havent already it can really help to speak to your GP honestly about your feelings and worries. If you don’t feel like they are helping a lot try another one until you get one that you connect with.

Let us know how you are going because we care here.

Brooke

[stormcloudz]

Hi Guest : )

I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone - on this forum you'll find lots of lovely people who have had the same questions and feelings, and some who are much further along on the path and have great advice.

I also have troubles feeling confident that people are my friends, it can be confusing.

Post again and let us know how you are going.

[PuppyLover789]

Hi Nic76nic,

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling quite down at the moment. Anxiety is very hard to deal with, and it's very brave of you to come onto this website and ask for support.

Building friendships can seem difficult, but often it takes time. It's hard to find people to get along with, but one way you can find a good friend is by participating in clubs or sports. There, you can find people who have similar interests as you and it's a good way to get along with other people.

If you are currently at work at the moment, maybe you could start up a conversation with one of your coworkers? Who knows, maybe you will have similar interests.

Or if you're attending school or university, school projects and sports teams are a great way to work with other people and make some new friends. Often, just being nice to your teammates/project members and doing all of your work can get them to respect you and more willing to be a friend to you. But also, since a lot of projects can be done collaboratively online due to things like Google Docs, you can work together with teammates in an online environment which can be less anxiety-provoking than speaking with them face to face.

However, if building friendships gives you anxiety, it is important to combat that first, and the first step would probably be speaking to your GP, who may give you advice and refer you to a counsellor if needed. Often, talking to someone else about our worries can reduce the anxiety.

A counsellor can be able to give you support and the resources to deal with anxiety.

If you would like immediate support, you could ring BeyondBlue's support service. They are very helpful and knowledgeable.

I know it may feel hard right now, but over time you will start to feel better. Best wishes,

PuppyLover789

[Nic76nic]

Hey everyone

Friends have always been hard, I dont know why. I wish I could explain.

Having a mother like I do who constanty tells me I am not worthy of much doesn't help. I can't even be friends with my mother so friends with others is hard. I always worry about what people think of me.

[Gardenlady]

You are worthy of love just like everyone else sweetie. Your Mum must be feeling incredibly bad about herself to be treating you in that way.

Listen to people that lift you up not bring you down. There is always light and love somewhere.