Why does my anxiety do this to me

[Anonymous1234433]

i force my brain to make things up. I cant help it I will convince myself that things that didn't happen did, I will convince myself that someone said something to me that didn't actually happen. it's not all bad things either like i will convince myself that a person who probably hates me was nice to me. Is it a coping mechanism?

[geoff]

Hello 1234433, thanks for posting your comment.

'Coping mechanisms may help you adjust to stressful events while helping them maintain their emotional well-being', in other words, it's ways to where external or internal stress is managed.

I wonder if you have OCD as these could be 'intrusive thoughts' or have you been diagnosed by a doctor, sorry to ask these questions, it only helps us know what you are suffering from.

Geoff.

[FullCreamMilk]

Hi Anon,

I experience the same thing on a daily basis, for me personally I don't think it's a coping mechanism but rather my insecurities talking. When there is something that I am I dislike about myself I tend to focus on those things and so kind of believe that other people feel the same way.

The only way that this can be dealt with is either by acknowledging these insecurities and accepting them or acknowledging them and trying to find ways to either minimise are get rid of these insecurities.

With the part about believing that someone who 'probably' hates you is being nice to you, it could be that they are being nice. Just because someone dislikes you, it doesn't mean that they'll act in an unfriendly manner to you.

Some people choose to disregard their dislike for someone and try to be nice so that they don't cause unnecessary drama or complications.

It may also be that the person is actually being rude but you choose to see the best in people and therefore you're trying to justify their actions. So even though what they're doing cannot be considered 'nice' you're trying to give reasons as to why they may be acting that way.

To be honest, I feel like it all comes down to your insecurities, yes it may be a coping mechanism as in you don't want to have to face these insecurities so you do what you do.

I find that what works best for me is to ask myself questions and try to get to the bottom of why I'm feeling how I'm feeling. It could be asking yourself how your day went and having a conversation with yourself. As weird as this sounds if you do it right you should be able to get to the bottom of why you're feeling this way and doing these things.

But you do have to remember sometimes these come out of nowhere sometimes there may be no explanations and that's ok.

Wishing you all the best,
FullCreamMilk