Shy bladder

[Benny83]

Im a 38 year old male and from as long as i can remember have always had trouble using public toilets fearing the urinals. I mean if i walk in and no one else is there i dont have a problem but if someone walks in and im halfway through i lock up and cant finish. So most of the time i just go straight for the stall and even then can take a good 20 seconds to start going. Its got nothing to do about being embarrassed or anything because i cant even go infront of my wife. It has stopped me doing a lot over the years because whenever we have plans to go away or leave the house im always stressed about not being able to go. Theres been many times when we have gone out for drinks and i go to go to the toilet and cant go so have to go back 5 mins later and try again. My mates always asking me to go away fishing and have a few beers out in the boat but i keep making excuses to try and avoid embarrassment because he just pees over the side of the boat. I was talking to a counselor the other day and told him about it and he said he has the same problem and said you'd be surprised how many guys tell him the same thing. Im going to be seeing him regularly now to try and get some confidence back in myself and hopefully do something about it. Ive actually lost a few friends by rejecting them all the time and has become a problem with my relationship over the years as well. Im going to do what i can to get through this. Cheers Ben

[Matchy69]

Hi Ben I to have the same problem as you.I can't go in public toilets and have to use a stall as long as their is no one talking.I can't go other people's houses.Some times I have gone a day without going when I have been desperate to go and just can't and get into so much pain.
May I suggest you see your GP and get a referral to an urologist.Their is medication they can try you on or even an operation.It would be a good idea talking to one of them and see if they can help.
Take care,
Mark.