Dear Shelly~
Welcome back to the forum. Before saying anything else I'd like to offer my sadness at the passing of your son. It is not that long ago and greif has no timetable. and affects each person differently
It may well be that you and your partner have different things that cause stress and anxiety, however that can be steered around to make life more harmonious.
The most important thing is that each of you cares for the other and wants to make their life as easy as possible. By now I would expect you both have a pretty good idea of what upsets your partner and can try not to talk about those things unless there is an important practical purpose.
People do need to talk about thier grief and loss, but in tis case perhaps a partner is not the best person to talk with. Do you each have a family member or friend with whom you can talk frankly, they only have to isten and care -not 'fix' anything.
An alternative is counceling, and I'd recomend Relationships Austrlia (1300 364 277) who are pretty good. If they do not have an office in your area then they may be able to suggest something closer
You know you are welcome here anytime.
Croix
