Sexual Dysfunction and anxiety are wrecking my marriage

[Need_Help_Pls]

Where to start…. I am in my mid 40’s, married, with two small kids under 8. I have a history of chatting online, including chats of a sexual nature, but have not done this since before my wife and I got together 12+ years ago. We do not have a great sex life and I have resulted to occasionally watching porn instead of trying to engage in sex with my wife. I recently chatted innocently to someone I used to chat sexually with, and my wife is understandably pissed. We discussed what’s going on and think counseling could be best for me to help me get to the root of the issue and try to build her trust in me back up. My query is, who would be best placed to help me?

[Psychdiaries2]

Hi there,

Welcome to the forums, and thanks for your post.

That's great to hear you're going into counselling to work on things. I think it would be best to see a relationship therapist if you're thinking of doing couples counselling or if you're going on your own, seeing a psychologist would be helpful. You could talk to your doctor first if you want to get any recommendations and I believe through a GP it may be subsidised. Alternatively, you could do some research online and see if there are any psychologists/relationship therapists near you. 

Wishing you all the best,

PsychDiaries