Quitting job

[anony2]

I’m quite an indecisive person. I’m always worrying about whether I’m making the right choice or not.
I’ve told my boss that I’ll be resigning because of personal matters. The reality is I just haven’t been feeling like the job is right for me, whether that’s because of how stressed I’ve been or if that’s how I really feel I’m not sure.
They’ve offered me to take a few weeks break and come back to work again instead of quitting. I declined initially but they kept offering me and assured me I was good at the job. I eventually agreed to it, but I’m not even sure if I agreed because I want to or if I felt pressured to do so. They’re all lovely people there and I’m sure it wasn’t their intention to do so, but I can’t help but feel lost about what it is I actually want. I know this all sounds silly. If I’m being honest I regretted agreeing to stay the second I did so, but I’m reluctant to tell them that I’ve changed my mind once again because of the inconvenience but also because I don’t know if I’m just running away from the place because of how anxious I get being there. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do?

[Nervybella]

Hi Anony2

Good on you for reaching out. After reading your post these are my thoughts...

-what is it that you don’t like about the job? Is it something that is likely to continue or will the situation change? Is it a new job or position?

-taking some time off may be good as it will give you the time and space to think about what you want to do - whether that be continue this job, apply for some new jobs, look at other avenues etc etc. You say you’re indecisive, so maybe having some time where you’re not committing to resigning would be useful?

Is your boss someone you could talk to about how you’re feeling?

Ive quit a job before (after only 2 days) because it just wasn’t the right fit. I don’t regret my decision at all, but quitting without anything else to go to is stressful in itself. It takes time to find a new job so that also needs to be factored in

At the end of the day I still believe your mental health should be your number one priority, so do what you think is best for you.

I’d love to know how you’re getting on. Please don’t hesitate to reach out again.

Best

Bella 🙂

[geoff]

Hi Anony, the situation you are in is a difficult decision for you to make as you clearly want to leave for personal reasons, but they want you to have a break and then come back to work.

Do you try and make the right decision and spend much more time believing that any decision you make turns out right, waiting for a sign or something to point in a direction one way or the other.

Your health comes first and if a job is too stressful then it's not appropriate to continue.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[anony2]

Thank you for your reply, it means a lot.

I do find that I’m always waiting for a sign before I make a lot of bigger decisions.

I’ve decided to continue with the break and see where it takes me if I still feel like the job will be stressful I will definitely leave.

thank you again!

[anony2]

Hi Bella,

Thank you for the reply!

After thinking about it I do think that I just don’t like the job itself. But I have decided to take the break just to see how I feel from a different perspective.

I really do appreciate the help, thank you for sharing your story and for the advice!