Pit in stomach makes a come back

[BorderCollie]

Hi all,

I've never done this before and feel like a bit of a flog, but figured it might help to share.

I upset someone yesterday, & being a people pleaser I've found it hard to shake. I was sort of seeing this guy, I think he may have overreacted but regardless he doesn't want to see me anymore. I'm fine with that, because I know he did things that upset me too and deep down I knew he wasn't a good match, so this is probably a blessing in disguise. However the beauty of GAD has got me thinking he'll run my name through the dirt, which is completely out of my control I know.. but it's also got me questioning whether I'm a good person and all sorts of shitty thoughts that I was managing, up until today.

I've also lately had a pit feeling in my stomach, which to be honest I haven't had since I was a little girl and didn't know how to cope with it all. I would usually call my mum but I feel like I rely on her too much. I think I'm just having a bad day and feeling very unsure of myself, but if anyone has any tips on how to stay present I'd love to hear them. My head at the moment is thinking about yesterday and thinking about tomorrow.

I've learned a lot this last year about myself and how to manage my anxiety, and I've been warned by my psych that I'm bound to have days where I go back to "the old ways'' which today certainly has been. I just thought I would try a different avenue in self help, so thanks for anyone who is willing to listen or respond.

Cheers

[Doolhof]

Hi BorderCollie,

Welcome to the community here. It can be easy to feel like we are going backwards and have taken a bit of a dive. I do that quite often. Remembering what has worked in the past and trying to put those things into action can be difficult but very beneficial.

It certainly helps me to share here on the forum, so I hope you feel the same way. There are many different sections for you to check it. Some people find it helpful to read other posts that relate to their own issues.

Feeling unsure of ourselves and dealing with emotions like the ones you have recently experience can certainly affect our minds and bodies in many different ways.

Hopefully you will find ways to accept what has happened with this guy and you can both move on. We all make mistakes and stuff happens. Easy to say, but not always easy to deal with right!

I find trying to think of something I am thankful for helps.

Cheers from Dools

[Beekeo]

Hi lovely.

Just wanted to say you are not alone. That feeling in the stomach is the WORST. And likes to sneak up on us when we least expect it.
I'm feeling it now.
Breathe. Talk it out. Talk to friends or family. Get out and try and keep yourself busy.
The logical side will win eventually.

[BorderCollie]

Thanks, Dools. I think this is a great opportunity for people to share their stories, what worked and what didn’t.

I feel better even just chatting about it, and I think this is a reminder of how I can learn from my mistakes and take lessons out of these things.

I’ll be sure to return the favour and pay it forward also.

Thanks again, appreciate your time.

[BorderCollie]

You’re spot on there, Beekeo! Just when you think you’re doing alright... anxiety has a funny way of letting you know it’s still there.

But that’s okay, as long as we learn to manage it 🙂

Thanks for your understand & reminding me to find some logic and perspective! Appreciate your message.

[MsPurple]

Hi BorderCollie, Dools, Beeko.

I thought I'd come in here for a chat as I've read the post and can greatly relate, having recently had a break up with similar grounds and also having the same feelings. I know we are not in the same friendship groups (me growing up in a different town) but still. I know the feeling.

I hate hate hate hate the sinking stomach feeling. It feels terrible. I also hate the throat sensation that comes with it, can't explain it properly but I feel it there too. I tend to get the throat one when I have general anxiety and the stomach pit which is more intense and on a specific thought.

When I get these feelings I try take some deep breaths, sometimes meditate, have a bath or watch funny dog videos online.

[BorderCollie]

Nothing like a good hit of humour, especially from dogs to cheer someone up.

Thanks for sharing MsPurple, it's refreshing to hear I'm not the only person who can feel this way.

[Doolhof]

Hi BorderCollie and all,

Hope you are finding your way around the forum okay BorderCollie.

Ms Purple mentioned funny dog videos, I have seen some hilarious videos with goats and sheep, if you want a bit of variety Google some of those! Goats seem to have so much fun when they are young! I would love to have some of their energy!

Cheers from Dools

[Astro_Boy]

I also get the sick in the stomach and it is very unpleasant. It gets worse sometimes where I lose my apetite and don't eat. Last time I had an attack I went 3 days without eating.

thanks for sharing, I am happy to know I am not the only one experiencing this symptom