Dear Patsy Ann~
OK, you have been on the same meds for a fair while, it is probably time to get your regime tweaked. This is normal, bodies adjust and circumstances change. I'd imagine when you explain your symptoms your doctor may consider an adjustment.
Going to a psychologist, especially for the first time can be puzzling, exhausting and leave you quite unsettled. Don't forget you are in charge and if you don't understand something, or do not know where things are supposed to be heading it's quite OK to ask.
Now with your husband. As you can appreciate it is very difficult for someone that has not been there to understand anxiety and depression. There is a very strong temptation to think you can explain or argue a person out of illness, which is as sensible as talking somebody out of a broken leg. Similarly a great temptation to offer solutions, which sadly miss the point. Judgment has to change. How one regards a health person is not suitable for someone with a mental illness where different standards have to apply as normal acts - even getting out of bed - may not be possible.
Maybe getting your husband to read sections of The Facts menu above might help.
What you call nagging, which is simply a result of your anxiety is probably not a good thing for your relationship -for either of you. Being constantly reminded can seem like criticism, and that's going to be hurtful and counter-productive. I'd suspect no matter what you say it will make no difference to the ledger in the end.
I'd suggest the first thing to do is recognize the business' future is one problem, your excessive worry and resultant (nagging) behavior is a separate issue with a need for its own solution.
You can by now recognize the occasions when you feel you need to press your husband about the bills (and other things too) and could make a rule to yourself.
If it is a task you can do then do it, otherwise side-step the issue and try to do something positive/distracting/useful instead. See how you go. Of course if the wheels fall off and no money comes in then you will need to have a discussion with your husband about who does what. Perhaps you might need to have a more active role.
I'm glad your husband should be OK. With a husband having cancer it is not really surprising your symptoms increased, and simply because he is now better does not mean your anxiety about it will behave itself and go away - unfortunately.
Perhaps you would like to say what you think of all this?
Croix
