no friends, no connection

[iseeaguitarandachair]

hi everyone, i have been really down lately mainly because i have no where to be or do outside of home and i don't leave my house anymore. its been many years that i have had social anxiety, anxiety and pocd. i don't have any friends and thats really diffulct. i was hoping to find friends who are going through similar issues as me so that we can talk about whats going on and there is no judgment. if anyone feels the same way and would like to try and connect please hit me up

[IsaJett]

Hi there ..I can be your friend 🙂

welcome to this forum

yeah I have no friends either ..lol but I keep myself entertained fairly well ...self love they call it ...i recently discovered it ...you should join me on my journey

I hardly leave the house too

but today I had an awesome day ..

i did meditation ...Jason Stephenson positive manifestations meditation on YouTube ,,,look him up ..he has been there for me time and again .

I felt so good ..I launched into a dance featuring Charlie puth hits and Meghan trainor..

broke out in a massive sweat ...so good ...so something tells me I be sleeping well tonight ..lol

why don’t u try the meditation video tonight ..I promise u feel better .

let me know how you go ..love to hear from you soon ,

[Peppermintbach]

Hi iseeaguitarandachair,

You sound so lonely and down. I think us humans generally need social contact. Loneliness can be such painful and debilitating feeling...

I’m so glad that IsaJett has chimed in with such understanding and caring support 🙂

I must admit that my personal circumstances are a little different to yours as I don’t have social anxiety, etc, but I did have one friend who struggled with social anxiety. Like you, she rarely left the house, and found it difficult to venture outside sometimes. Even responding to messages, etc, would often trigger an anxious episode in her...

I hope you can stick around to chat and form connections. It would be lovely to get to know you a little better...you’re most welcome to write in any time you like.

Kind and caring thoughts,

Pepper

[iseeaguitarandachair]

Hi 👋 thanks for replying 🙂

ive listened to Jason Stephenson meditation before too actually it was good 🙂 the day you’ve had sounds a lot like my days as well if I’m feeling good I’ll have a dance party as well:) I left the house today I was so terrified I did what I needed to do so I’m glad I didn’t stop myself. Im exhausted though 😕 I smoke a lot and that’s run me down, do you leave the house at all? Thanks for reply to my post it put a smile on my face 🙂

[IsaJett]

Hey I’m glad u wrote ...And I am glad the video worked well. Ohh smoking isn’t good .i did smoke ..but It zaps energy ...plus it was super expensive .hahaha so I picked it up and then quit pretty quickly ..thank god for that ..u should try and quit ..hahah but slowly ...be easy on yourself ,and u get there .

i have learned that I often put a lot of pressure on myself very unnecessarily.. and a lot of stuff in my head is really not that bad ...
so here is what has happened lately ..but see how it apply to you ..I am sure u relate ..hahah cos we do sound similar
I had to move out of an apartment ..about two months ago ..I been so damm stressed about it ...day after day ...stress stress stress ...there was like no end to it ..it was constantly bogging me down . I went into overdrive ...could not cope at all ...
i found a place in three weeks...but here’s the thing ...within that three weeks,...I had been so beating myself up about it ...thinking about the worse case scenarios literally myself crazy ...hahahaha so then I was like happy for two days as I found the place ...and then as you would have it ..I stress about the move .
so dumb because I should be happy about it as I’m staying in the same building ...and the move be easy move ...but no...I wouldn’t let myself relax ...I instead chose to go into overdrive ...hahahaha shoot myself in the foot ...hahahah
worry and stress viciously ..all the worst case scenarios went through my head ...every bleak situations ...hahahah it was endless.
so then I had the move ( which I had been dreading so badly ) over the weekend ...from last Friday to Tuesday ...I had successfully moved from one place to another ....
it was like a MAJOR SUCCESS ..I need to highlight this because I need to constanly remind myself that I am intelligent and I can cope with whatever problems that would arise . I never give myself enough credit that I can deal with stuff that crop up . I just go into instant meltdown mode. So now I am working actively to talking to my conscious mind ...instead of letting my subconscious mind take over...the subconscious mind is on auto pilot ...
















 

[IsaJett]

it was like a MAJOR SUCCESS ..I need to highlight this because I need to constanly remind myself that I am intelligent and I can cope with whatever problems that would arise . I never give myself enough credit that I can deal with stuff that crop up . I just go into instant meltdown mode. So now I am working actively to talking to my conscious mind ...instead of letting my subconscious mind take over...the subconscious mind is on auto pilot ...things we just do automatically ..I believe anxiety and depression ...falls inside that part of the brain.
the conscious mind is what will get you out of it .sheer will too will assist ..
but I am so happy the move is over ...it went swimmingly well.
the removalist actually did a NO SHOW ....hahahaha and that point I’m like OMG ???this isn’t happening ...but then I tweaked it and said ...no isa...this is happening but u r smart and resourceful ...how r we gonna do this ? You can panic rollover and die ..or you can use your brains ...
i had so many things went wrong that day ...but hahahaha I encounter each and every challenge calmly and like a professional. It is amazing for me and I was so self aware of it the entire process. I kept saying to myself ..there just isn’t sense to panic ...take a deep breathe ..and work it out. And I did just that .
so when you have any problems too ..just talk to yourself kindly and be your own best cheerleader be your own best friend .dont ever beat yourself up .
i have tried this other method that has worked well for me as well ..
when I say something negative to myself ..I literally give myseld 5 seconds to tweak it the other way


for example ..if I have a job interview...I think ..omg they gonna hate me ..cos I’m ..blah blah
Then I almost immediately say the opposite ...what ..no way ...I’m awesome and they gonna love me ...cos I’m cool ...I’m super cool ..
hahahah it works like a charm ....try it Mr Chair and guitar ...hahahaha
what is your name ? I was trying to figure out your name using your username ..haahah
hope to hear from you soon
hope what I wrote made you laugh at least ..haha

[xhomeostasisx]

Hey, what’s up? Yeah, I had no friends until I was so lonely that I sent myself to stay on a hospital ward. I met a couple people though they’re struggling too and they can’t hang out all the time.

Social anxiety sucks and I get it all the time. I feel your pain man.