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[blue44]

Hi I'm had depression and anxiety for almost 10 years I would like if anyone could tell me how to stop walking away from things when my anxiety take over??

[beingbyrne]

that's a hard one....I've had anxiety all my life and I still don't know how to deal with it when it gets bad. If it's only a mild one, I practice mindfulness and exercise helps. Medication is the best remedy for me.

Are you on meds? Please tell us a bit more about your situation.

Welcome and good on you posting

[Croix]

Dear Blue44~
You certainly got straight to the point with your question. So I’ll try to answer that first and maybe waffle on a bit afterwards 🙂

I have the same problem as you, a very great desire to abandon ship when situations place me in highly anxious states. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. It can be very hard to be motivated to stay on.

I guess I’m very conscious of the fact I’m like a snail, and carry my burden with me. For example the number of times I’ve thought of leaving where I work is countless. Every time something bad happens or someone is rude I want to just leave and not go back.

I stop myself by thinking if I did I’d be stuck at home. Fine for a day or so, then the sort of thoughts that made the workplace almost unbearable would start again - but would now apply to my home situation. No opportunity to retreat further and in addition I’d have abandoned something basically worthwhile without opportunity to reverse matters.

So I stick to it.

If it is avoiding talking to someone I don’t get on with, or having to face something I know will upset me I will step around it. I believe my ‘background’ stress levels should be as low as possible in order for me to deal with the bigger things.

Background stress, or healthy lifestyle, or avoiding triggers or whatever you want to call it is, for me, most important.

I have medical and family support, lots of practice over the years and try a well-established set of actions to help. I distract myself with reading, movies and so on. I exercise (gently), mainly by going for a walk outside the environment that is causing hassles. There is family and pets as well.

As Beingbyrne has said it would be good if you were to reply and say more about yourself, your life, if you are under treatment and what personal support, as in family or friends you have. This allows us to understand you and give better advice too rather than just being very general.

If you have not already done so have a look at the information on anxiety and depression in The Facts menu above, and also have a look around this Forum to see how others have got on.

Croix

[blue44]

Its hard to tell what happens to me but I will explain it the best way l guess it when things that l want don't work out l just want to walk away for it all or someone puts me down l feel like everyone hates me or when l think l have friends and they just walk over me l feel alone its can get worst when I'm drinking I feel what's the point in living but sometimes l can drink and have a good time lm trying to understand this it so hard.

[Croix]

Dear Blue~

You explain quite well enough. I don't think there is a quick fix. Alcohol might serve sometimes, but as you've found it can go hte other way.

All I can say is what go me from where I was -not functional at all - to where I am now -sort of ok is by outside help. That's medical help with meds and therapy and with personal support, my wife and family.

Al that combined with the lifestyle practices I outlined above have worked. So I guess if they were effective in my case they may well be in yours.

I would like to ask some questions. Can you say if you are on any treatment? Also if you have a family? Is there anyone you can talk to who wants to help you? Not being nosy, just like to know how things stand to be able to address things more clearly.

Croix