My anxiety take over..

Crimson · ‎09-03-2016

So I have had anxiety since I was a child I had seperation anxiety which transformed into GAD and panic disorder/boarderline personality disorder into my teens and now adulthood.. It wasn't until I was 21 (and attempted Suicide) that I was full diginosed I spent most of my life thinking everyone felt like this.. Since being diginosed I had been able to educate myself I have been able to manage my anxiety and not get into the cycle of depression steaming from my anxiety.. But I feel every few years a bad swing comes round.. And can feel myself sliding at the moment.. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he met me when I was just coming out of a very bad period and was coming off medication.. I talk very openly about my mental illness and sometimes feel that he says he doesn't understand but he is supportive of me, but it's hard for him to understand because he is not in my head and can't see how I see things.. Lately I have been feeling very disassociated and I know this is the tell tail sign of my swinging out of control, and because I'm distant my boyfriend is getting annoyed, I often zone out cause I just can't Handel the small chit chat at the end of the day.. I'm thinking and worrying about other things and just don't listen to what he is saying and it's really starting to grate on him.. Does anyone eles feel like this? or understand? Any tips with how to stay more foucused or should I just communicate how I'm feeling even if I don't like what he has to say.. As you can see I'm panicking about talking about it..

blondguy · ‎09-03-2016

Hi Crimson

Welcome to the BB Forums and Thankyou for Posting

I do understand where you are coming from. I have (had) anxiety for many years. Just a few tips if I may...

* You are not swinging 'out of control'....At the end of the day you are exhausted and your system is merely letting you know that its time out.

* Dealing with anxiety can make your mind 'tired'....It will happen..

* The good news is that Anxiety does lose its severity over time...and it will for you as you know Crimson

* I felt exactly the same with 'the end of the day' and zoning out as well....Its a pain but it takes time...

* Okay....just a couple of tips that may/may not work for you Crimson....

* Sleep...A good deep REM sleep (rapid eye movement) can help you cope so much better the next day

* Before sleep turn off any cellphone/ipad...They only increase your brain activity and thought processes..thus resulting in a poor quality sleep that may leave you vulnerable to the anxiety the next day...

* Coffee/Red Bull etc....Just dont go there....they will only increase any anxiety that is already there...

You last two lines about venting to your BF...just do it. Its exactly the same as a physical disorder...Good Idea

Staying focused can be an issue especially after dealing (not fighting) with these dreadful symptoms..

Crimson...If you wish to, please respond....It would be great to hear from you...

Kind Thoughts

Paul

ac1991 · ‎11-03-2016

Hi Crimson,

I just want to say first of all that you should try not to blame yourself for any of this, because we all know that if you could choose not to feel this anxiety you probably would have got rid of it a long time ago, so good on you for doing your best. The next thing I want to say is that I know what you mean when you say your husband doesn't quite understand, because he is not you. It is never easy explaining things to somebody who doesn't know what you're going through, no matter how supportive they are. My anxiety has also taken a turn for the worse lately but I find that one of the only things that really helps me is to seek advice and talk about the way I feel with people, and even better if they know what you're going through - which is why the BB forums are so good, there are people who can relate. The best advice I can give you is to make sure you're eating well, and music is one of the things that gets me through - although it's not for everyone, going for a walk and bringing the headphones with your favourite songs (calming or happy music, try to stay away from sad) and talk to people! Art is also a great way to express yourself and get some emotions out. I wish you all the best, and please respond if you feel the need to. 🙂

blondguy · ‎11-03-2016

Hi AC1991

What a great post....and Welcome too

Anxiety can be a pain (understatement of the year)....I remember the feelings so well. I hope you find some peace AC

Music!...A Wonderful key to the Soul....:-)

Paul

(Apologies for Hi-Jacking your thread Crimson....If you wish it would be great to hear how you are traveling)

Dwwmills · ‎11-03-2016

Hi Crimson.

You know your situation better than anyone else but I think it’s always a good idea to talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. The good thing is that things generally go better than you expect.

I suffer from GAD as well. I have it under control now. I used medication and cognitive based therapy to get it under control and now use CBT only to maintain that. If I find myself slipping it’s usually because I have neglected the CBT. I find that by going back to basics e.g. good sleep, eating well, tackling my problems with CBT and getting out of my head space by mixing with friends generally works for me.

You sound like you have been able to control your anxiety before I suggest you go back and look at what you did to be able to manage it and see if you can find a solution there. If that doesn’t work there’s nothing wrong with going back to see professionals again as they may be able to spot what is happening. If you’re feeling overwhelmed there are no extra points to earned by tackling this on your own.

Good luck

Dean