moving away for uni - don't really know how to label this feeling

[lonelylemon]

hi

i recently got accepted to law school interstate and im coming to terms with the fact that i'm moving out of home - which in itself took me 4 days to stop crying over. it became evident that i am severely attached to my family, friends and of course where i'm living. i'm fresh out of year 12 and more scared and stressed now than i ever felt during my exam period believe it or not. im finding that i just constantly feel so so so low and so alone and more than anything just sad. i overthink so much about whether i will be able to find the right friends, going out (i dont really enjoy late nights and i dont drink - and i feel like this will make it difficult to make friends) and most importantly whether i am even cut out for law school - which is crazy because i worked so hard for it but now i would rather give it up than have to feel like this any longer.

i find myself suddenly bursting into tears if i think about it for more than 2 minutes and it totally offsets the entire day afterwards. i don't know what to do or how to manage it. my friends and family have seen me cry and we have had discussions about it but i dont want to keep burdening them with my same issues over and over again.

any help please

[uncut_gems]

Hi lonelymelon,

First off, congrats on getting into law school and welcome to the forum! You're about to take a big step, but one that you're ready for. Ironically, it is exactly the wonderful network of family and friends that you are so sad about moving away from that will make your move successful. Moving away from home can be scary and lonely, and at times probably will be. But knowing that you are anchored to your home because of your support network is what gives you the courage to strike out on your own!

One wonderful thing about uni is meeting all different kinds of people and eventually finding a group of friends with similar tastes, interests, and schedules. Many, many, many people who don't care for partying or drinking have found rich social lives at uni. While it can be easy to get overwhelmed with work, getting started with coursework should help you feel a bit more grounded. The fact that you were admitted means that a whole bunch of people are confident you will excel.

Most unis nowadays do a fantastic job of setting up loads of orientation activities and facilitating social events for new people. Remember that everyone in your entering class, even people from right down the road, are in the same position you are!

I remember the days before leaving for uni (I went only 40 minutes away from home) were emotional, teary, and confusing. Transitions are hard. But moving away from home is as exciting as it is scary. Try to take the opportunity to spend some time and make some more lasting memories at home before your next adventure. Your friends and family are there to help shoulder the burden and shouldn't mind this very understandable reaction.

Warlmy,

Gems