Why am i feeling like this?

[H-c]

I think i have anxiety but I’m not sure if I should go to the doctor, even then I’m still scared to go to the doctors because honestly I’m afraid if i did go to the doctors my family would not treat me the same anymore, I’m afraid that they’ll look at me and treat me like i might break any second. I’m also afraid that the teachers might do the same.

Recently I’m getting cramps often, and i tend to get to the point where i wanna cry for no reason, like i started feeling all bothered and i started taking deep breaths and it feels like i need to go to the toilet urgently, like I’m getting really nervous and all for no reason. I know that you guys cant diagnose here but are there anyone here that has experienced this and if so what calms you down, what helps you not breakdown often and what is keeping you form not breaking down? Anything, any tips you can give will help.

But here are the things I’ve tried and did not help:

1) exercising (made me feel Worse)

2) meditating (tried it often and did not change anything)

[vvu9606]

Hey H-c,

Honestly I think if you think that you have anxiety you should go get it checked out. I know it may be terrifying and be scared of other people's judgment, i'm not gonna sugar coat it yes your family may treat you differently and there's nothing you can do about that, all you could do is just tell them to not or just ignore their stares. I would know I went through the exact same thing as you last year. What I did was I went to my school counselor, and started talking to them, they are extremely helpful. From there I got her to refer me to a physiologist, I think that's the best thing you can do. The counselors are under a confidentiality agreement so unless you need outside help or something is threatening your well being/ health they wont get in contact with anyone. And your teachers don't need to know unless you tell them! To not breakdown so often, I'm still working on that. One thing I do recommend is that you talk to someone you trust. But please don't bottle up your emotions until the day when you talk about finding your identity in class you breakdown in front of everyone and your teacher has to take you to the quiet room........ (that's how they find out)

Hope any of this helps you,

Lots of love,

vvu9606

[H-c]

I heard that the school counselors tells your parents or emails them if you went to them to talk about any problems. I don’t want to burden my parents further when they already have their hands full already.

The thing is i cant bring myself to talk to anyone really, what if they said something like of it will go away, don’t worry or what if they think I’m seeking attention or something. They are already carrying their own burdens I’m scared that i might be a burden to them.

I also cant bring myself to trust anyone, even if I did trust them, I can’t somehow bring myself to be vulnerable in-front of them , like i can’t talk to them about how I’m struggling to breathe every single day or how I’m sick and tired to feeling like this, and how I’m scared that i might eventually breakdown in front of them. And this is killing me because i really need someone to talk to but can’t because of all these damn ‘what ifs’. i went to the GP once he just shook it off and told me to exercise.(one of the reason why I don’t go to the doctors) i mean what’s the point of going to them and telling them about how my heart wont stop beating fast and my almost every day cramps if they are just going totally me to do exercise. I mean i could just go listen to some random guy in the gym if i needed to hear that. I’m so sorry if I’m dumping this out on you but I’m so lost at this point and I don’t know what to do.

[therising]

Hi H-c

Whilst some GPs are legends, others leave a lot to be desired. An angle the GP could have suggested involves a dietician. So much amazing research being done these days on the hot topic of 'Mood and Food'. An imbalance of certain bacteria in the gut microbiome can send anxiety levels skyrocketing. Our systems are so complex. A simple direction to 'exercise' would not rectify a gut imbalance if there was one. By the way, wondering if the GP ordered a range of blood tests in order to cross a few possibilities off the list in the way of physical health issues triggering mental challenges.

Being a mum to a 14yo boy and 17yo gal, I'm big on discussing the importance of mental well being with my kids. I left depression behind me some years ago yet still remember the overwhelming challenges that came with navigating my way through it. I never want my kids to have to face the challenges of life alone. My suggestion, so as to ease your parents into helping you seek professional assistance (such as an effective GP, a dietician who understands mood and food or a mental health therapist): 'I'm dealing with the challenges of anxiety and know I need a management plan in order to cope with such challenges. I need your help in creating one'. This indicates you're someone who's in control of sensing what you need, yet still needs support when it comes to putting plans in motion. Parents do tend to worry a little less when their kids indicate 'I got this' but I need some help with it. Once you start to get into a deeper part of the conversation, with a little more detail, you can then perhaps offer the information 'I'm experiencing a lot of debilitating stomach cramps along with the anxiety'.

When it comes to meditation, which I'm a devotee of, I find that if we don't know what we're meditating on it can prove pretty ineffective. Personally, I meditate on a lot of things in a lot of very different ways. If I want to 'power up' at the start of the day, I'll meditate on exercises that raise my energy levels. If I want an intuitive solution to something I'll meditate on receiving inspiration (another way of looking at this form of meditation is - Daydreaming, with a goal in mind). Daydreaming stops the thinking mind from working so intuition can become more active. I think most of us have done a very common form of meditation without considering it as meditation: We'll look to the sky, empty our minds and watch as clouds take unique form (very relaxing and amusing).

🙂