Lonely, anxious and slightly depressed

[Immortalwookie]

Hi all, new to this forum.

Ive been slowly heading into anxiety the last week or two, I have a history of anxiety and depression. Was going really well the last couple of months.

Seperated from wife of 20 years over a year ago. Just started have happy and joyful thoughts however the last week I have been really down about life.

I've cut my drinking down from every day to 1-2 days a fornight.

But now I'm starting to feel lonely, at age 47 I'm now living with my mum, and the only thing I really have to live for is my son.

I have many thoughts about beening alone for the rest of my life and if anyone will ever love me again, because I have so much crap from the past.

I don't won't to be alone for the rest of my life. Is anyone in a similar situation.

[FxZIONZ]

Hey Mate,

So for me i am only 20 and only just started life. However i was in a lonely, antisocial place for alot of my schooling. Suffering anxiety and depression off and on.

I just wanted to suggest. Do you enjoy gaming or board games? In your local area (for board games) see if you can join some game night groups. Similarly if you are interested in Dungeons and Dragons. See if there are any local groups willing to invite new members. Gaming you will meet people online who if you make a connection with will keep inviting you to play games.

For the negative thoughts, I am very happy that you arent drinking frequently to ease the thoughts. I myself am struggling with nicotine addiction. I started smoking cigarettes and now ive moved to vaping, its still an addiction. Just wanted to let you know that quitting to an infrequent drinking amount is amazing. Congrats!

I dont get thoughts of being alone. I do go out of my way to go to friends for dinner outside of work or go to my mates who work in food service and try to catchup whilst they are at work. I make sure to make connections at work so if i am down people notice. This is a big one actually. Just trying to be friendly and approachable will help people reach out to you.

This one isnt a great way to do things, but if you are looking at relationships etc. look online as there is many apps and websites which allow you to meet people you wouldnt normally have met in public. This would help with the feeling alone. As this allows you to meet new people and there are no negatives if you both don't connect.

Hope you feel better soon!

tj