How do you know what parts of your personality are you and what parts are anxiety?

[Anxious_Kay]

I only just really understood that I have anxiety and am panicking about what things I do are because of anxiety and what are just me. Any advice? My partner recently ended our relationship and of course I'm going through and thinking about what I could have done differently. I know it's not all my fault and he should have  been more understanding, but I'm wondering what I did due to anxiety... For example, was worrying about why he didn't always want to be with me normal because he was withdrawing or was it anxiety? Does it matter?

[white knight]

Hi AK.

Your anxiety is also part of you. So partners should accept these illnesses as something to deal with just like a broken leg. But often they dont.

Blame is common. It doesnt make sense. Why blame people for an illness they inherited or was caused by their childhood- but they do.

So, in the future seeking a partner that is considerate and understanding should be on top of the list. It will narrow down the prospects, eliminate many in the early days of dating. It might be a good thing.

[Jenzz]

perfectly worded