[HELP] just got kicked out, i have one week until I have to leave, what now?

[EmeraldALT114]

Just got into a huge argument with my mum and she now wants me out of the house, if she really does mean it, I have been offered to stay at my cousins place for a while which is good until I find out what I'm doing.
I'm only 18 years old so what do I do? I don't want to live life struggling, I want to make something of myself but also enjoy my years ahead of me, not struggling and being scared of where to go.
I live in australia, victoria.
Welcome to ask any questions, would really love some advice or tips xx.

[Sophie_M]

Dear EmeraldALT114,

Thank you for posting in our forums. It takes great strength and courage to discuss your concerns in a public forum.

We hear that you are young and uncertain about how to proceed with your life if your mum follows through with her requirement that you move out in a week. This sudden deadline can make everything suddenly seem overwhelming. And yet, you have already identified a place where you are able to move temporarily.

For assistance with finding affordable housing in Victoria, including crisis housing, go to
https://housing.vic.gov.au
For immediate support with finding emergency housing in Victoria, call
1800 825 955

If you would like to speak to a counsellor who can help you sort out your next steps, we invite you to call:
Beyond Blue Support Service 1300 22 4636

Warm regards,

Sophie M.
 

[geoff]

Hello EmeraldALT, I'm sorry this has happened but wonder if this argument has been an ongoing dispute or whether it's a once off to be this bad because that may be your mum's first reaction to ask you to leave.

Can you tell us if you have finished schooland if so then you can apply for Centrelink benefits and once this has been accepted they can lend you the bond money and two weeks rent, which you slowly pay off, this is one option or apply for different jobs, but that's done the track, first of all you need to find somewhere else to live.

As Sophie has said you can contact housing for emergency accommodation, which is a flat/house furnished with furniture but in the meantime stay with your cousin, but tell housing you can only stay there for a short time, that's why you need emergency accommodation.

I wonder if you have people who can give you references because you'll need these to be able to rent a property, and if this can include any people you know with a qualification and business will definitely help you.

Jobs such as babysitting after school when the parents are working is an option or perhaps these food outlets that do have many restaurants in every suburb could be another, so please if you can get back to us that would be great.

Take care.

Geoff.

[EmeraldALT114]

Thanks so much for the response,
I am midway through Year 12 VCE so not sure if that's a good thing or bad thing, I will definitely contact housing and see what to do, I'm just so scared for my future and what to do.
My mum feels as though I have backstabbed her and betrayed her so I don't know if I can come back from this, to put the situation in context, I vented to my mums sister's cousins about personal stuff that she didn't want coming out however I never meant it maliciously.

I currently have job in fast food and get paid around 287$ a week and don't think that will be enough, as this job is in the area I am currently in, I may try and get transferred to a house closer by where my cousins live.

Please respond ❤️

[Banksy92]

Hi EmeraldALT114,

Sorry to hear you're dealing with this right now, it sounds very stressful and we want to make sure you are safe and find the best option.

May I ask, do you have a license/car? Or how far is your cousin's place from your work? Would you be able to get to school and to your job if you were living with them okay?

If you need to leave your home, I would recommend at least first going to your cousins just while you decide where is best to stay long term. If that means staying there, or heading somewhere else, take your time to access all your options best you can.

If you can, get to centerlink. Even with what you are currently earning you might still be eligible for some payments on top of this I think if you are living out of home, so I would recommend going in and having a chat or calling (allow lots of time, as it can take a while waiting or get there super early, just as it opens) to discuss your options.

The other question I wanted to ask is do you think it's possible to take a break from home, stay with your cousin for a few weeks and then come back home and try to resolve things with your mum? Even if it doesn't result in you living there, it might be a good idea to try and patch things up for the sake of the relationship. Only if you feel comfortable, I know this is a tough one sometimes.

Let us know how you're going.

[EmeraldALT114]

Thanks for replying 🙂
I don't have my license or car yet as it's been very hard for the past 2-3 years (mental health wise) so I found it very hard to keep myself motivated to do it as it takes a lot of time whilst doing Year 12 so I don't have it yet however I have been recently trying to complete my learners course online to try and get my learners!
My cousin's house and my job are about a 20 minute drive away from each other but I am thinking about asking for a transfer to a closer store near them so it is easier on me and them, my cousins have been very supportive during these past 2 or so days and have offered to let me stay with them so i'm probably going to stay with them for a while until I figure out what I am doing and how to live comfortably without any struggles.

As for centerlink, I definitely do want to look into that as that could really help, I could take a break from my home but I just don't know how that would work, I might just see what happens along the way.
I love my mum so much, just really don't know how to fix this so i'll give her time to think about everything.

Thank you so much xx