Hi there and welcome to the forums.
Sorry to hear that you're dealing with a pretty trick situation with your wife. I'm glad that you've felt comfortable to seek some extra support, and hopefully in turn better support your wife.
It sounds as though there's a culmination of things impacting on her mental and emotional state. 1. She's experiencing severe anxiety. 2. She's relying on marijuana for relief. 3. She feels she has some underlying pain. 4. She feels like some cracks are showing up in her relationship. 5. She has a child to consider through all of this.
My best advice would be to focus on one thing at a time. Are the effects of the marijuana impacting on the way she cares for your child? If so I suggest you start here. Would she be willing to do an outpatient rehab program? That way she can get support as well as be there for your child.
If the smoking isnt having a huge impact then perhaps start with the anxiety with the aim of exploring together all of the treatment options available. Medication can be extremely helpful however there are various types, and it can take some time before finding the right one. Speaking with a Psychologist or counsellor is another option and speaking with your GP would be a good place to start. There's also relaxation and exercise like yoga that can be of help.
With regard to your relationship getting her through this time will take a lot of tolerance on your behalf. You're right it is normal to have some arguments in a relationship but if she's starting to feel uncomfortable with these it could be that too many discussions are resulting in fights. It can be really challenging when you want whats best for her, but she cant see that for herself. Try to be supportive of her choices, as difficult as this may be.
Both of you dont have to go through this alone so invite her to seek some medical advice with you.
AGrace
