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Feeling Scared Again.

Beaser
Community Member

Hi and best wishes to everyone.  I know that there are people doing it so much harder than me. But i just feel defeated at the moment.  Im just so lonely and i miss my ex partner so much and i know i have to move on .I started a new job that i was going well at but i couldnt go in on Wednesday and i feel really bad about it. Im sick of fighting this battle and im tired from it. Just how much do i have to go through . Im sorry to be on such a downer but i dont know where to turn to at the moment.    If i break it down im lonely and scared.

I wish every one a good day .   Brett.

 

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Beaser
Community Member

Hi Ham and others

I managed to get somewhere with centrelink  so at least an achievement there. 

Been a bit up and down ,  I was at my football club on the weekend it was a good day except for the behaviour of some people towards the opposition.   This upsets me as i want my club to be a positive place. Not one that has the ugly parent sindrome .    

I admit i am feeling stressed about this.   

My best  wishes  to everyone.        Brett

Beaser
Community Member

Hi and best wishes.

I wish i didnt have to feel this way.   Im really struggling and scared  about my future.   I am slowly eating into my savings and my  mortgage redraw.   Im just so scared of becoming broke and losing everything. Im just scared about my future.        Best wishes   Brett.

HamSolo01
Community Member

hey Beaser

Been a while mate - life has caught me in a moment of peace right now so it's nice to be back

 

I think many are struggling financially. I know that isn't much of a counsel to you at all. But I guess it's a sign that you are not alone. Many people I am close to are finding it hard, some are retrenched, some are moving back in the family home with their folks. Some are even calling it quits altogether and have the benefit of being able to go to other countries (dual citizens). 

 

The good news is that there are systems in place for us if we ever fall into strife financially or employment-wise. 

 

I am digging into my savings more than I should. THis is something I hope to remedy by side hustles for work but I may well not have the time to do that. 

 

I am unsure what my advice is here my friend. I am only 29 after all. 

I think that the fear you have is perfectly rational though my friend. No shame in admitting that. 

Beaser
Community Member

Thank you Ham.

I am  very appreciative of your  reply , you mention about being 29 you certainly  have a mature and wise  mind. And i do value all you talk  of.

Im sorry mate, that at 29 you have your battles i hope you  are going ok.

Always here      

Brett

Beaser
Community Member

Feeling a bit lost and overwhelmed.  

Some times i just get confused about my depression/anxiety . Why and how does it take  the joy and that feeling of looking forward to things.  I just feel like at times i just want to have no commitments and not be required to be anywhere.  I know   that my football volunteering and connections there are so important  but i just feel no motivation to do these things ATM.   Does anyone have any similar feelings or thoughts.     Brett

Beaser
Community Member

Feeling pretty lost again. I wish i didnt have to say this.  I dont know where to turn.   Seen a DR yesterday and he wants me to try and find even a days work to get myself going.  I live alone and have no family connections and i just feel so alone and scared at times.    Im 58 and am very tired  from all this. I feel like im spiralling but have no where to turn any more.    My best wishes to everyone    Brett.

Beaser
Community Member

Im starting to get scared again. I have friends and spend time at my football club but i just feel so alone.  I know this may sound silly but you know that feeling that i think we all had as a kid when you just want to give youre mum a hug.  As a 58 year old man im not sure how that sounds.  I just know that its so lonely at times with no family  and  sitting the days away alone. I just wish there was someone there.      Brett    

Hello Beaser.....I get you. I have sons who are in their late 40s. They live long distances from me.  I often long for and just need a hug from them...(when you give a hug you get a hug)....I can't literally give them a hug just now, like you can't give your Mum a hug for whatever reason.....feel free to use me if you like...here I am, ready to give you a hug...xx

Thank you Moonstruck and sorry to hear that you cant be close distance wise to your sons. Sending you a virtual hug and my best wishes.       Brett.

Hi to everyone .

Sometimes life just seems about getting through things ,get through one and then comes another.

Its been a tough week  and i dont even know why other than just stressing about my future. I am 58 and i really miss having any close family contact as im estranged from my family and have no children. I have never been bad to any of my family but they find it hard that i struggle so much. 

I wish that i hadnt made the decisions i have at times but i think you make some poor decisions when your alone . At least thats what ive felt myself. 

I hope every one is going well. 

Beaser.