Feeling like a failure and hopeless everyday due to not finding a job post grad

[Guest_16276285]

Hi Beyond Blue forum!

I am writing this as I have recently finished up my bachelors degree in nursing and have not landed a job as a FT registered nurse. This has been weighing heavily on my mind and emotions as I constantly compare my self to others in my cohort who have successfully landed a graduate position where as I have not. Everyday I break into tears have a feeling of doom when thinking about my future as I hate the uncertainty about it all. I had my whole future centered on gaining a graduate position  after finishing uni - for context I was waitlisted and could be contacted up until next August, but the waiting game is hard and as the days go by I give up hope on receiving a position. I was wondering if anyone had any good coping mechanisms as I feel like I should be proud of myself but I dont, I feel like I wasted years of my life on a degree to not even land a job. My mind is just stuck in a negative cycle of telling myself that I did not do good enough in life. 

[just-a-Dad]

dont beat yourself up, this is common amongst new grads.

sometimes its luck of the draw, sometimes its because your peers had more Carisma in the interviews.

be strong and keep at it, take any job you can get at the moment and do your best.

get some life experience and job interview experience,

you have come so far and you should be proud, life sucks sometimes but it gets easier.

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Guest,

A very warm welcome to the forums..

Congratulations on completing your bachelors degree in nursing…You should be so proud of your achievements…Well done..

Please don’t be so hard on yourself, be kind and gentle towards you…after so many years of studying a little time to rest is okay before you start your full time career…I am certain that you will find work soon as nurses are the backbone of every hospital….and are needed especially out in the country areas….just a thought about if you have a preference to where you want to work or if you’re flexible in different areas…..

Wishing you every happiness and hope your future will be bright…Nurses are awesome people….

Please talk here anytime you feel up to it…we are here for you the best we can be…

Thinking of you with kindness and care…

Grandy..

[RainbowCuddle]

Dear member,

Please rejoice in the completion of your nursing degree! Good job! My parents retired as RN's so I know the hard work you all put into your studies!  I take it, you must have done very well to get your piece of paper as well as the placement/s you undertook. In the meantime, please look after you! Good eating, Good forms of exercise whether it be walking, enjoying nature, being surrounded by people who uplift you, healthily balancing social media platforms (so you are not seeing the comparisons). Perhaps considering some volunteer work in the meantime in a caring field might be a good way to keep busy and active during the waiting time.

Take care x

[MoodedOut]

I can really relate to this when I first got out of university too, I felt like a failure who kept on applying to grad jobs, but everyone else I knew seemed to get one so easily.

It's definitely an awful feeling that you feel you're not being valued by society. What I will say is once I got my first job (not a grad job), things got much better for me and after some meh jobs, decent jobs, and downright awful jobs, I feel I am finally in a good place.

I hope this helps in some way. I am hoping for you too