Failing Exam and loneliness

[Guest_55604052]

failed an easy exam for professional career, when the pass rate was highest its been and feeling overwhelmed doing course again, not sure if this is right path for me. The exam may get harder and you just dont know. I bought a ps5 and signed up to play tennis because thought i was done with exams. Also, feeling like life is just a routine doing same thing and then going bed and then next day.
Im also feeling lonely, no one wish me happy new year, and when i dont say anything no one reaches out, only my mate when he wants me to play call of duty but he is usually with his girlfriend he doesnt really say anything to me. This girl wants to hang out etc, then she said thanks for the advice and now she didnt even wish me happy new year, she has done this consistently when i reach out to her she says sorry i feel bad not saying anything and then again she has done it.

[Sophie_M]

Hi there!

Thank you so much for sharing your story with our community. Things sound really, really tough right now, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so overwhelmed. There's a lot going on for you, isn't there? 

Failing an exam is always so disheartening, you aren't alone in this experience at all. Though, it would be really hard to feel like the course isn't right for you. What makes you say this exactly? 

It's great to hear you have been gaming and playing tennis, doing things to fill your cup is important! I'm curious, you have mentioned things feeling lonely and routine, so I can imagine you're feeling quite flat at the moment... when do you notice little moments where you feel more energised? Is it when you're playing games, when someone reaches out, or when you are doing something out of your routine? What comes to mind? 

It really does sound like connection to things you enjoy and others who make you feel seen and supported would mean so much to you. These things are absolutely achievable, but sometimes it can take a little time to find the right fits for us, and that's more than okay. Have you considered speaking to a counsellor at your uni about how you're feeling? This could be a really helpful next step. 

Please let us know what you decide to do - we would love to hear your answers to my earlier questions too! 

Hoping you have a lovely week ahead. 

Warm regards,
Sophie M. 
 

[sbella02]

Hey there, it sounds like you're going through a rough time right now. Welcome to the forums, hopefully you can find some comfort here. 

If I may ask, are you re-evaluating your career path because of your exam performance, or are there multiple factors involved?

If you still really like this career path but the exam has discouraged you, I would encourage you to give it another go. Everyone learns and absorbs information at their own pace, and there are many reasons why you might fail an exam. Failing feels awful, especially if you had high expectations for yourself, but it does happen far more often than you think and it doesn't have to signify the end of the road for you. Whether this means that you may find it beneficial to speak to somebody who may be able to help you understand the content better, or whether you need an industry mentor, these may be things to consider.

But if you've wondered for a while whether this course is the right path for you at all, there may be different questions to consider:

• What appeals to you about this path?
• What is unappealing about this path?
• What initially attracted you to this path?
• What do you value the most in a workplace? (eg: ease of work, being challenged, socialisation, flexibility, salary, staff environment, etc.)
• What drives you away from a workplace?

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling lonely, too. It's awful to feel like nobody wants to reach out. It's important to have a good network of people around you who take a genuine interest in your life and make you feel loved, and you can find these kinds of people in a variety of different places. Workplaces, through volunteer roles, local clubs and groups based on your interests (sport, crafting, reading books, etc.), even online through places like Discord and Reddit. Nobody deserves to feel lonely.

I hope this advice is helpful, and we're here to support you if you want to chat some more. Happy New Year, by the way. 🙂

All the best, SB