Dear Ohme
It's good to hear from you again and to know you are progressing. When do you move house? I presume you are using a removalist and not trying to do it alone. Great news about the rental property. Yes, it's probably the best thing to sell your house, especially if the market is good. When your life settles down a bit you may decide to buy another home.
It's good we have the technology to block emails as well as send them. I take it that it is your former husband that is hassling you? It's probably driving him nuts that he cannot control you any more and so is resorting to bullying and harassment. You do know you can take out an AVO order against him? I take it you have also blocked any phone or text messages.
How are your two older children coping with the move? You mentioned that they were not happy but understood. I hope they will be able to make new friends when you move and integrate easily into their new schools. This will take a huge load off you.
How good is their relationship with their father? If it's not very sound then they are more likely to settle into their new home easily. If I can suggest, talk to them openly about the hows and whys of moving. We have all looked back on our childhood and remembered to sunny days, and it's great. Your children need to remember the good times with their dad but also the not so good.
It's so easy to remember the past through rose tinted glasses and start to resent you for taking them away. I don't mean you should badmouth their dad, just tell them as it is.
Being nervous about your new life is normal. Try to put it out of your mind until you arrive. Easier said than done I know. You do need to focus your energies on the immediate tasks. Do I sound like I am teaching my grandmother to suck eggs? Sorry.
Unless you need to work for financial reasons I do suggest you give yourself a break when you move. Once all the hard work is done, furniture placed, clothes and china unpacked, kids at school, there will be a period of time when you will feel a little lost and disoriented. Use that time to settle into the home and become acquainted with the neighbourhood. Sit on the deck, or whatever, with your baby and a cuppa and let all the emotions drain away.
I know there will be the daily chores and you sound like a person who wants to keep your home clean and inviting. But give yourself a break and permission to relax. I predict you will be quite tired by then, so rest and refresh.
Out of words.
Cheers
Mary
