fear of studying; fear of the inability to learn.

[AlexDeLoser]

Hey everyone,

I just wanted to share my experience with something I've been dealing with for a while, if it is even an actual thing, furthermore- if other people have experienced it too.

Basically, I've always been afraid of learning, or rather- the possible inability to learn (to not take forever to learn something). I've never gone past '80%' of my potential for the fear that the last '20%' of my abilities aren't worth it; I fear that my best efforts may never be even as productive as someone's ''I wasn't really trying'' amount of effort.

I believe this insecurity of being not being intelligent enough stems from how much I value my mind. Is there even a correlation between intelligence and sentience or a measure of how much of a person a person is? I mean you can program computer to be able to- answer questions, calculate or even create, at that point- that computer is probably the most intelligent being, regardless- it's still not of value as a human being. The point is- I don't think intelligence is a measure of a person's worth as a human. My question to you- Is this valid? or is this just my preconceived bias in play?

Thanks everyone. I hope I made sense. 🙂

[Aaronsis]

Hi AlexDeLoser

I firstly wanted to say how hard that was for me to type as I am sure you have made your username as an inference that you are a loser....you are most certainly not.

I am so pleased you have come here and reached out for a temperature check for want of a better word.

You yourself have hit the nail so very much on the head INTELLIGENCE IS BY NO WAY A MEANS TO MEASURE A PERSON'S WORTH AS A HUMAN...I have never actually met anyone and said "oh hi Alex, oh yes, you are that person that only ever got a C"...you are so much more than your grades and what counts every day of the week is what is inside you. You sound like a very articulate person as well as a very warm and caring person.

I have two teenage children and I drum into their heads that grades do not matter when effort is involved. Of course if they are sitting around doing nothing to help themselves and getting E's then yes, that is an issue, however my point to them is a C with every ounce of effort is outstanding.

You say that that you are afraid of learning, and I can see you understand why that is which is a wonderful start as you can start to work on that. Can I also point out at this time how awesome 80% is to get on a test, the fact that you are trying is outstanding. It certainly does not mean that you are 20% inefficient....or have 20% of worthlessness.

The other thing is that we are all different and people learn at different rates and absorb different things, I know that this is so very hard but try not to compare to others, they might by struggling in other areas and are most certainly not the perfect person you are creating them to be...and even if they are..good luck to them.

I am not sure if I have helped in any way but I am here to chat to you anytime.

Hugs and strength to you

AS