Don’t know how to ask for help, what I’m asking for...

[I_wish_I_could_learn_by_o]

Just not feeling like I can (should) reach out and ask for help. Read through some of the new posts but found it overwhelming and confusing. Not even sure WHAT I am asking for, have never really been able to ask for help, or have had unrealistic expectations of what help means or looks like. Don’t want empty platitudes like “it will get better” because of course it will. 

A lot of anxiety exacerbated by being in lockdown and socially isolated, can’t remember how to hold a conversation, or maybe I just don’t care anymore? Now a single mum, over 40, DV situation which lost me the support of my family, intellectually disabled child, have psychologist and psychiatrist, on new meds with recent bipolar diagnoses. Anxiety, depression, maybe BPD or complex PTSD.

Lost?

Getting along okay.

Not sure how to make connections with people and would like to learn how to converse with people and make friends and be friendly again.

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hi there and a warm and friendly welcome to the forums 🙂

It can definitely be a bit confusing navigating your way around at first. But there are different sections, depending on your interests. There’s also a search function if you would find it helpful to type in a particular key word.

If you’re looking for community and a bit of friendly “chatter” there’s various interest threads you can join in too - eg. There’s a gardening thread, another on what people are reading…

if you’re looking for more support, you could also ring the BB helplines for a chat too.

Hooe to hear more from you. If there’s anything particular you want to chat about, or things you want to talk through, let us know. We’re a friendly non-judgemental bunch. Welcome! Katy

[mocha delight]

Hi I wish I could learn by osmosis I was first on here after joining before I had first had a appointment to talk to my gp about my issues and at the time I did not think I deserved the help as I would be wasting time when there are people who needed help more then me who were worser off needed the help more then me but I had some wonderful people said to me no matter how much help or how little help I needed that we all deserve help no matter what. Now I’ve been on a antidepressant since the week before covid 19 was first mentioned and I’ve been seeing a psychologist since the 17th of September last year. Oh and sorry I should of said first welcome to the forums.

[I_wish_I_could_learn_by_o]

Thank you for the welcome, looking for chatter threads sounds great and I love gardening even if I’m not doing much of it at the moment. I will check that out, thank you.

[I_wish_I_could_learn_by_o]

Thank you for the welcome. Your information about feeling you didn’t deserve help because other people needed it more or (as I sometimes feel) are more deserving, really hit home for me. I feel lighter just knowing I’m not the only one to feel that way. Like, because you asked for help, regardless of feelings, I can too. Talking to my GP and psychologist does help too. I really appreciate your reply.

[Pureison]

I'm very glad that you are reaching out and getting the support you need through this difficult time, I wish the best of luck to you. It's so nice to hear that things are looking more positively for you.

[Petal22]

Hi osmosis,

Wellcome to our forums!

Sorry you are feeling this way…

I went through a really rough time in my life I had severe anxiety OCD….. asking for help that was what saved me! I started at my gp we did a mental health plan together, this enabled me to see a clinical phycologist, psychiatrist who diagnosed me with OCD I then did a 8 week group therapy for my OCD this is we’re I learned to master my OCD…. I’ve now recovered..

The health professionals I saw were amazing……

If you are looking to make conversations with people we are a lovely bunch on this forum we are happy to chat to you 😊

Do you have any hobbies or interests?

You will get there …….. when I go shopping I always make conversation with the staff at shops…… you could try this?

Do you go to any groups with your child?

here to chat

[mocha delight]

Hi I wish I could learn by osmosis no need to say thank you as I’m honestly glad I could be of some help to you and if you ever need to chat I’m here for you.