Do I Have Purpose?

[Chicken_Wings]

One of the things I find that I get anxious about is feeling like I have a purpose, like there is a point to my existence.

I see other people living their lives and I feel like they are achieving things and have goals. I then think about my own life and wonder what I'm missing. I feel like I'm getting older and like I've missed a vital step in life. Like there is something I am meant to be doing and I'm not doing it.

Days often feel like I'm just waiting for another day to be over. I don't feel like I'm doing much, I just go to work, come home, watch tv, repeat. And then on weekends try and find something to do to fill the days. 

I've been looking up meetup groups and clubs or groups I could try and join, but it all feels kind of weird and pretend.

Has anyone else struggled with feeling like they have no path or no purpose? How did you combat it?

[MisterM]

Yeah I feel like I have no purpose too.
I have worked jobs I dislike since completing a degree I should never have done, what a waste of money.
Now I am unemployed and just feel lost, I don't know why I am on this planet.

[Chicken_Wings]

Hi MisterM,

What do you like to do? Not as a job I mean. I mean if you could image being somewhere and doing something, what would it be? Is there a way to turn that thing into a career?

If it can't be a career, can it be something you do on the side that gives you a sense of fulfilment. You don't need to be defined by the job you do. Personally my job makes up so much of who I am that I feel lost the rest of the time. I wish I had more purpose outside of work.

[MisterM]

Hi Chicken Wings,

My love is music, I write songs and I have played at open mic but have stopped as of late as I don't feel like doing it. But I don't want to have a career in it other than if I were to be recognised, signed to a label and toured. I record demos and post them online for people to listen to. I don't want to go do some degree in music, I want it to be a hobby and not a job. I seriously doubt my music will ever take off, there are so many way more talented artists than me, it's like a needle in a haystack chance to make the big time. So I am not optimistic at all, plus I am limited with my guitar playing and singing, if I could afford to I would get lessons every week.

I am thinking of either doing nursing or teaching, but that would mean making music a second priority as both these careers are stressful and time consuming, especially teaching.

[Chicken_Wings]

Hi MisterM,

have you considered teaching music? Not I a school, but teaching kids how to play the guitar? Or what about working in a music shop?

even if just for a little while so you can build up some shavings until you make some more long term decisions.

if music is your passion, then find a way to make a career out of it. I have friends who are musicians who tour and get radio play and some of them have music related jobs. There are some who do other things, but they devote a certain percentage of their time to music, the job is just a way to pay the bills.

[Scotchfinger]

I can think of one reason you are on this planet. Empathy. To connect with the same anguish I feel of being out of a job.

Thanks.

[MisterM]

Hi Chicken Wing,

I have never had lessons, do not know theory and am very limited in the chords I can play.
I wouldn't be able to teach.

[Guest_1055]

Dear CW

The thoughts of not knowing my purpose for existing on this earth has re -surfaced in my thoughts. It is always there in my mind somewhere I just was not so focused on it.

For me this is a real complex issue, and I have yet to find a clear answer or an answer that yells to me truth. Have you find any real answers that satisfy you? To me this very day, well it just doesn't make sense.  But I am hoping it will one day....

With hugs to you..... Courageous one

Shelley xx

[Bluey_moon]

CW, 

My advice, for what it is worth! Choose  a career based on what you would find fulfilling! I find the suggestion to combine music and teaching a good one! Have you also looked into music therapy (along the nursing vein). Everyone one has a purpose, to follow what fulfils them! 

You sweetheart sound like a caring, beautiful person, stay true to yourself, you can't go wrong! 

Xo