Dating with Anxiety

Ember12
Community Member

I recently started seeing someone and they matched my energy. Lately the energy has dropped but they are still talking to me. I know they are busy with other things but the last couple of days I have convinced myself that this person is bored of me, And doesn't feel the same as they did . I worry I was too much or they find me boring or have gotten sick of me.

I really like this person and other than not talking as much there aren't any signs they aren't interested, But I can't eat, can't sleep, can't stop thinking about it or going over old messages where they seemed more enthusiastic about seeing me.

I have worked so hard on building my life to where I am happy and I accepted being single, Then this person came along and dating seems to be a trigger as in the past I am always ghosted or made to feel not worth dating so I now panic when I get to a point in dating and it feels horrendous waiting for a reply or text that will never come, And not being able to do anything about it.

Has anyone had this feeling or know any tips or tricks that helped calm then and let them go about daily things without worrying so much?

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Guest_1643
Blue Voices Member
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Hey Ember. Welcome and good on you for posting! This sounds so common and relatable, especially about "ruining" things, then ruminating on "how" and "why" you ruined what was potentially good. I relate a lot as I think like that about tonnes of things, including dating. Sometimes I feel taht way in social situations that I have made someone hate me... and I'm so obsessed with that and fearful of that. It's very hard to be vulnerable. I really feel for you and hope you are doing okay. I'm sorry I don't have a lot of dating advice but I am always here to listen 🙂

Matchy69
Blue Voices Member
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Just reading your post i can understand your concerns.When you start dating someone their is a lot of excitement especially when things are going good between the two of you,this is called the honeymoon period but after awhile this can dwindle for one or both of you and you go into the next faze of your relationship this is where you have questions and doubts.The best thing for you to do is have a talk with your partner and see what his feelings are and where does he want into the relationship.I hope this helps.

Take care,

Mark