Constant over thinking about the worst in every thing

[Ocean88]

Im soo exhausted of my anxiety i keep thinking of asteroids hitting the earth and dying fear of death i fear public places i fear what people think of me how i look i always have these thoughts of losing my kids i cant deal with myself anymore i really nees help but i dont think nothing will work to stop my thoughts

[Croix]

Dear Ocean88~

Welcome to the Forum, it is a friendly place with many people who have suffered from the dread of bad things happening.

I have an anxiety conditon, and when it is bad I fear the worst in an awful lot of things, from the car not going to the house burning down to relationships with others turning sour, plus much more. Matters that when I look back on when my anxiety is under control I find were not likely to happen and all the anguish was misplaced. It is simply a symptom of the condition.

I had other problems too but basically could not make myself better. I soldiered on for as long as I could but eventually recognized I needed competent medical support. A good decision, over time it has made the world of difference and I now do not get those overwhelming fears very often, and even then they are much less severe..

So may I ask if you are under medical support? If you are I guess you should return and say whatever treatment you were on is failing badly.

Of course if you are not under treatment now would be the best time to book an extended consultation with your GP and explain how you feel and how bad things have got. It may well be you have an anxiety based conditon like me, or some thing similar. In a way that would be good news as such conditions normally respond well to treatment.

Apart from medical help do you have other people in your life who care about you and can help? Just talking sometimes eases things a bit. I talk with my partner and get a sense of perspective as a result.

I do hope you come back and talk more

Croix

[Ocean88]

Thankyou for replying it means alot... i did go on antidepressants a year and a half ago and was seeing a physc once a week i didnt find the physc meetings helped but the meds slowyly helped then i stopped taking them thinking i had it under control so ive been off the meds for about 9 months and now in the past week i have gone down hill rapidly ive talked to my partner about it he just says oh well if we die we won't know etc etc i have vissions of my kids dying and trying to cope wotbout them i have vissions of my partner dying vissions of car crashes and just so on and so on i used to get pannic attacks and heary papliations and i dont want rk experience them again its scary i hate my mind i get snappy ive shut people out im done with it

[44Max44]

Hi Ocean88,

I've suffered with health anxiety for a little while now, to make a long story short I pretty much worry about everything and anything to do with my health. I'll see a mole I don't remember and will instantly assume it's something bad, or get a blood nose (something that happened just today) and think it's something bad. The fear of death is pretty much the biggest fear I and many others have in life, and I too have times when I spiral down a dark path and start feeling miserable, I'm in the middle of one of those times right now. The good news is; you'll get out of it!
A few months ago I had my first run-in with health anxiety, which caused me to be super anxious and depressed for a good month straight, but by month two I was already feeling better, and by month three, I was already out of that mind-loop. This is of course just my experience and could differ for you.

I too experienced a range of physical symptoms caused by my anxiety such as panic attacks, heart palpitations, and things like shutting people out of my life and getting snappy with people. A slight 'ache' in my chest is probably the most common physical symptoms I experience when I'm feeling anxious. It feels like my chest is 'tight' and sometimes I feel like I have difficulty breathing, but I know that these are just caused by my anxiety because during my very brief moments of clarity I get from time to time I notice that all these feelings disappear, therefore they must all be in my head.

I found what helped the most is 'The Anxiety Guy' on YouTube. I pretty much watched all of his videos that I thought was relevant to me, and took the tips he talked about in those videos and started doing them. At first I thought it was doing nothing, but they really helped in the end.


Good luck, and I hope you find something that helps.
All the best,
Max.

[Croix]

Dear Ocean88~

Thanks for coming back and explaining more, there is some pretty good news there. You went on medication and matters improved!

Lots of us have taken meds for a while, then felt OK for so long we thought the original problem had gone. So we stopped. Later we have found it was not that good a move. So can I suggest you visit your doctor again and see if you can resume your prescription (but under supervision of course). It might take a little while to build back up.

With that psychologist, there is a temptation to just go along with whatever the psych says, and put up with it if it is not much help. The best thing is to keep trying different ones -a fair trial with your doctor's input, and find one that does help. Different people respond to different approaches, that's normal.

I'm afraid at this stage your partner is not saying anything very helpful. Often this is becuse they do not know what is needed. A three way talk between your doctor, yourself and him might give him some ideas on reassurance and stress reduction.

If he wanted he could ring our 24/7 Help line (1300 22 4636) and ask the sort of things to say and do.

Do you think the suggestions above would be something you would like to try?

Croix

[Ocean88]

Oh max thankyou for taking the time to reply to me.. its really appreciated, funny you mentioned the anxiety guy i was looking on the internet and stumbled across him he is amazing.. im.glad i am not alone and its soo good to hear that you know what im going through im glad you are feeling better and i hope you have more days of feeling good then days when your feeling low. You helped me alot thanks mate

[Ocean88]

Thankyou croix for staying in contact with me... i also think i should see the doctor again i just feel so annoyed how i cant help myself i feel like a failure... no my partner definitely doesnt make things easy thats for sure. Good point on the psychologist ive only ever tried the one im also one that bottles thing up untill i explode i guess thats also because i dont have anyone that i can try to explain myself too.. i really like to thankyou for your suggestions and helping me this is definitely helping me

[Croix]

Dear Ocean88~

You are welcome, I'm glad it is a bit of a help, you are not alone.

Now you know waht I'm going to say, but I'll say it anyway -hearing it from someone else may have an effect.

You simply are not a failure any more than anyone with any illness. If you want to talk failure then talk about not recognizing there is a problem (you do recognize it) and not taking the appropriate action (which you do too -you came here and are thinking about the doctor as well)

You can't always pull yourself out of it solo, I certainly could not. A helping hand (be it a real hand, medication or whatever) is sometimes essential.

Medication is a part of my life and I eventually was lucky enough to be put on one that works and has few side-effects. A small price to pay for a stable and productive life.

Croix