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Broken Relationship

Wally
Community Member

Hey guys, 

 

Long story short. I have been in a long distant relationship almost 2.5years. Basically waiting on separation and divorce which I know through her and her family.

 

I messed up last year and cheated with my ex. Well this year, the same thing happened but on her side and now is pregnant.

 

She still wants to go through the divorce and be with me. We both felt broken, betrayed and all the emotional feelings that go with it.

 

We had reconciled last year and had been going strong. Religion plays a big part on her side which in all honesty has made this really complicated.

 

We both have 2 children each. We had always been opened and honest with each other in most cases.

 

Our connection was very strong. Im really lost in whether to walk away or try and sort it eventually. I know most people would walk away.

 

There still are other factors I haven't put in here just due to complexity.

 

We both had our dreams and goals that were in line with each other.

 

If she wasn't pregnant this would be easier to sort out. Im really lost as to lose her forever or take that chance.

 

I honestly don't know if we are the same anymore.

 

Any advice from anyone that has been in this type of situation would be greatly appreciated. I cant really talk to my friends or family, because they would just tell me to move on.

 

Thank you for reading this far.

2 Replies 2

Ranga-1
Community Member

This is a very complicated situation and it is NOT easy to walk away, like people seem to think. Could you guys have some professional counselling? Maybe it could be done via Zoom because of distance. It could help you come to some arrangements that are suitable and make you happy. 

Wally
Community Member

Thank you for the reply Ranga - 1.

 

She is seeking counselling. Im on the border line of seeking help. It really just seems so overwhelming to start somewhere.