Apology

[Guest5643]

Hi i just wanted to apologise if i've ever offended anyone with a post or reply.

Lynne

[white knight]

Hi Lynne

You are a very experienced poster here on Beyond Blue and your continuous participation is appreciated.

I'd like to explore this a little more, is there something you feel you have posted that you have had second thoughts on.?

I have this feeling often if that's what it is. I post then cannot edit and feel my comments could be taken the wrong way and sometimes have, leaving my with guilt and confusion. However, it is important to focus on the bigger picture- that our comments are educating others that read but not necessarily post here on the forums.

Please google or use search

Beyondblue topic guilt the tormentor

Beyondblue topic worry worry worry

Best regards

TonyWK

[Guest5643]

Hi im very sorry for misreading posts when im in a depressed state and replying not respectfuly. Im not making excuses im just saying a genuine apology. I realy dont want to leave forums but i dont want to upset anyone. Lynne

[smallwolf]

Hi Lynne,

I am unsure what has happened, but in Uni I also did a subject on Set Maths.. and in the first lecture the first thing we did was look at an english sentence and explored the various ways the sentence could be interpreted. It was the way the lecturer showed the elegance in maths and understanding of. In a space like this, how you might interpret something could be different to me. I might accidently read a comma where none exist. Firstly, don't leave. It is OK to make a mistake - an opportunity to grow. I have even looked at a post and said to myself later on "I probably should not have said that", and in those same instances, the reply is nice. There are other times when it is the opposite. A post/reply reflects ourself or feelings in a moment in time.

If you are concerned abotu what you write.... .before hitting a post button, read your reply as if you are the other user, and how would you feel reading the reply. A message (with a meaning) can be written in many ways?

Tim

[Guest5643]

Hi tim.

It was in response to my service dog story thread. I reported my reply to have it removed and explained but i was ignored.

Ive been upset over someone closing there bb account due to a post i wrote on white knights who cries spilt milk thread recently. Although i said nothing wrong i still have so much guilt that if never wrote on that thread then that person would still be getting help or help others. Ive started to notice over the years i think i self sabotage myself.

[smallwolf]

Hi Helium,

If you reported your story and was not taken down then perhaps there was nothing wrong with your story?

On closing an account... we don't really know why a person might close an account or walk away from something. There are also forums that I have been part of that I lose interest in over time. We also never know how a post can be interpreted by another person - something said with the best of intentions can be interpreted in a totally different way.

But I have a question for you... When do you see yourself self sabotaging?

[Sophie_M]

Hi Lynne,

We appreciate you reaching out here to talk through your current challenges and apologise that you have felt ignored when reporting your post. We would like to review the post you have mentioned and ask if you could please get in touch with us offline at modsupport@beyondblue.org.au so we can talk things through.

As per community guidelines, we ask if you can refrain from discussing any moderation decisions and avoid making any further reference to individual forum members on this thread. We look forward to hearing from you and value your contribution to our online community.
 

[Guest5643]

Hi.

Well im on a role. Another genuine apolgy for mentioning an idividual forum members on this thread.

In response to ? I find i push people away as soon as i feel they emotionaly get to close. Lynne

[smallwolf]

With the help of my psychologist worked out that a mistake is an opportunity to learn, grow, be brave to do something differently.

[white knight]

Hi Lynne (Helium)

I've been busy on a caravan trip actually. Its good Tim has chipped in here to answer you.

Please email Sophie and have a chat.

Did you read the threads about guilt? As I said, guilt is a terrible thing to have. I did, now it is greatly diminished. That is because I've accepted I'm not responsible for what other people do or how they react. Your best is always good enough.

In and forum we learn the hard way. But in the end Lynne, you will feel at home here.

Regards

TonyWK