Anxious at work because of a fall out with work colleague

[Snoopy88]

Hi everyone.

i wanted to know if anyone else has been in the same suituation and what did you do to try and overcome it.

the story goes like this. I had a fall out with my work colleague. We were really good friends. Now she doesn’t want to talk to me. She blocked me on Facebook and on her phone. She doesn’t even look at me anymore. I dunno why she has done that as I tired to speak with her she said she doesn’t have an issue with me. But if I keeping asking her she said she doesn’t want to be my friend. I told her I’m scared to come to work. She said it’s not her problem that’s my problem and I shouldn’t try to get her in trouble as she works hard. I asked her can we atleast be normal at work. She said yes that’s what I am doing right now. Since that conversation occurred we haven’t spoken at all. And I had a really bad anxiety attack which started at 12:30PM I kept thinking about her couldn’t get her out of mind. Her name kept popping in my head and I would visual her face. It’s really distressing me. Even when I’m not at work I think about her. Wishing we could just be civil at work. It’s like I have an obsession about her and can’t seem to get her out of my mind. My partner picked me up from work because I was so anxious. I told him what I’m going through. He said try to think of a white wall and tell your mind shut up. When I tired doing that it got more intense. Her name would constantly repeat in my mind and I would see an image of her. I dunno what to do. Has anyone else been in the same suituation before and how did you deal with it. I’m really frightened of that girl. I wish it wouldn’t effect me soo much.

[gloria10]

Hi Snoopy88,

I'm sorry to hear that it has been a difficult time for you. How have you been feeling since your last post?

I'm glad to hear the music apps are helping, the calming sounds are really nice.

Hope you're doing okay.

Gloria10

[CoraC]

This situation sounds stressful for you. I would be feeling much the same as you if that was happening to me. I have had similar traeatment from work colleagues. Like you, a tried to work out what I'd done, but couldn't get an answers from my so called friends. Much later I found out they thought I'd dobbed them in over something they'd done at work so they decided to blank me,as a whole team. The fact that I had observed their behaviour but made a conscious choice NOT to dob them in was all for nothing. They blamed me anyway and shunned me. It was horrible to not have done anything wrong but to be treated like rubbish anyway. It was devastating. I remember hearing a phrase after this happened which was something like, there are people you'll meet in life who love you and hate you, and little of it has anything to do with you. If possible you may find moving on is best for your mental health. I feel for you.

[gloria10]

CoraC that sounds really tough for you and I'm sorry you had to deal with that, no one should be treated like that. I hope the situation has improved for you. Btw I also like the quote below.

there are people you'll meet in life who love you and hate you, and little of it has anything to do with you.