Dear Believee~
Welcome to the Forum. I'm sorry your life is so horrible now. If it is of any consolation you sound a lot like I used to so I can relate pretty well.
It's not the purpose of anyone here to contradict a medical professional, we are all just ordinary people that have suffered a mental illness. However you seem to have two that have opposing views with your GP saying chronic anxiety and a psychologist saying not. All I can say is that the panic attacks, testing for physical ailments coming back with negative diagnoses, broken sleep, isolation and constant worry that you mention are all exactly what I went though.
I'm a lot better now thanks to meds, therapy and support. May I suggest you talk further to your GP and see if an alternative therapist can be found. I guess getting together the right medical team is like a lot of things in life, to get a match for your needs can take several goes.
You love your kids, I've found kids to be quite robust and manage to survive a loving parent who is cross at times. It sounds pretty good that you have a husband and parents you can talk to. Support is much needed in this sort of situation and people that care, even if they don't understand exactly what you are going though, are a great boon.
I'd suggest you have a look at The Facts menu above that has a lot of information relating to anxiety -and depression. Also you could browse though the Forum here and see how others in similar situations have coped.
I'll mention one thread from there:
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/self-help-tips-for-managing-anxiety
which I have found very useful, it's long but worth going through. I also suggest developing your own coping methods, everything from exercise to distraction. There is an app for the smartphone called Smiling Mind that I use when anxiety gets bad. It takes practice but does help.
I'd really like it if you came back and said more about how you are getting on
Croix
