Dear Biankka~
Havering anxiety is horrible, and can have all sorts of physical effects. I've had it for very many years and have had everything from headaches to nausea and stomach cramps, plus more, so I know how you feel - there are lost of others here who will know too. Anxiety does feed on anxiety and there is the worry of having attacks at just the wrong time.
First off do you mind if I ask if you are being treated for your anxiety? It was the only way I got better. Trying on my own simply made things worse over time. If you are under treatment can I suggest you see your doctor and say your regime needs looking at, it's not that effective. Of course if you are not being treated I'd suggest now would be an excellent time to go see about it.
Dealing with individual attacks as they happen is one thing, and here I've found controlled breathing plus being in a frame of mind where I understand what is happening both help. Have a look at
Forums / Anxiety / SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING ANXIETY
which is long but has helped me heaps.
Trying to reduce background stress has helped too. That's partly trying to aroid things that cause stress, having exercise, nutrition, a healthy lifestyle and getting enough sleep. Plus reserving a while each day to do something enjoyable just for you - preferably something that takes your mind away from everyday worries. I use books among other things, do you have anything like that?
A wedding can seem a very daunting thing, so you need allies. Are you able to talk about all of this with your fiance ? Hopefully he is someone who can be an understanding source of strength when things get hard. If he is simply concerned for you and not putting the pressure of expectations on you then that will help.
Would you like to come back and talk some more?
Croix
