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I am middle aged & suffered from crippling bouts of anxiety for over 5 years now. Once a very self-assured, positive thinking person to a shadow of my former self. Medication, self-help books, therapy & exercise do help, but haven't resolved this long term issue. This is impacting my relationships & all aspects of my social life. I am tired of feeling the way I do & would love some tips on what next to do. Life is too short to be feeling the way I do most days. ☹️
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I wonder what events from five years ago may have contributed to your condition?
The loss of family members, close friends, or career spring to mind as these can shatter confidence; but even progression through various stages of life require navigation and adjustment.
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Hey there, thank you so much for reaching out, we're happy to have you here on the forums. I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling with anxiety, it can really be so debilitating. Particularly if you're used to being self-assured and optimistic, anxiety can be quite the change of mindset, and it can be tough to adjust.
One thing that is important to remember if you can is that thoughts will come and go. It can be difficult in the thick of your anxiety to not dwell on these thoughts, but try to remember that they don't necessarily reflect reality. This may seem like such a trivialised view, but it can be helpful to keep in mind.
Perhaps approaching a GP to find another therapist or psychologist may help. There are many different practitioners out there, all of whom have slightly different perspectives and experiences from which they give advice, and sometimes hearing a different opinion allows you to try coping mechanisms that you may find work really well for you.
Have you spoken to anybody else in your life about this, or would you be willing to? Sometimes social support can be really good, particularly if your anxiety is related to social situations or if it occurs when you're around people. Insight from people who know you well can be quite good too.
I hope this helps, we're here to chat some more with you if you'd like, and if you need any more suggestions, we'd be happy to offer more from our own life experiences. Our Beyond Blue community is made up of people from many different walks of life with varying degrees of experience with anxiety and what coping strategies/long-term strategies have worked for us.
All the best, SB
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Hi, I cant offer any tips but I feel just like you
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Hello,
Welcome to the forums. Very sorry to hear that you are struggling with severe anxiety.
I understand it can be very overwhelming and interferes with your day-to-day functions, but you are not alone.
If I may ask, was there any particular incident that happened 5 years ago that has triggered this anxiety?
Do you have a fear of being judged by others in social situations?
Glad to hear that you are seeking help and that is helping you in whatever small way it can. Maybe you can talk to your therapist about Exposure Therapy where you can have gradual exposure to the things you are afraid of through repeated contact until it becomes easier to face what triggers your fear or anxiety.
Hope this helps and you feel better...
Take care
Happylife