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Hi
Recently I landed my dream job everyone around me is so happy and excited for me but for some reason I can't be happy for myself
I feel like I don't deserve it or something will come along and ruin it
I don't know how to accept happiness for myself
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dear Lauren, I want to thank you for being brave to post a comment, because it's never easy to be able to to this, but well done.
We have so many nerves when starting a dream job, so much pressure that we have to do what is expected from us, there will be people expecting us to do well and there will always be eyes that we feel are watching us, all of this is normal, believe it or not, it's just that it's takes time for us to settle in, and at first mistakes maybe made, that's only to be expected and your boss will know this, because you have to find where everything is in the building, where the tea room is, where the loo is, what room or floor is the process room, and at first how to find your office, this has to happen until you get settled.
However I wonder if you are afraid or if you are having trouble with any type of anxiety, and have come to this new job from an awkward situation and this is important for us to know so we can then try and help you.
Even if your experience and qualifications are what is needed for this position, it won't matter if you are suffering from any type of depression, because even the CEO of a large company can be stricken down with depression, and please no one can help this, and it's certainly not their fault.
I hope that you can get back to us. L Geoff. x
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Hi Misslauren93,
Congratulations! You got your dream job that is fantastic news!
I know you don't feel happy about it and you think you don't deserve it or something might ruin it, but you gotta let yourself accept what you have been given. You 100% deserve this job and you shouldn't let anything or anyone ruin it for you.
I myself have experienced the exact same feelings once before, i was given an incredible job opportunity at the zoo i was excited to apply (didn't think i would get chosen) once i received a call saying i got it i cried.. i did not want to do it, my friends and family were over the moon but i wasn't i found it extremely hard.. but long story short, i took it i went and after the first day i was in love.. best thing i have ever done.
What i want you to know is that as unhappy you are don't let your emotions define who you are.. take every opportunity that is thrown your way, great things start with small accomplishments.
All i can say is go for it! i believe in you.. and think it's super great that you got the job and better yet you reached out on the Beyondblue forums good on you.
Stay Strong
- Lori 🙂
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