Hi Ray of sunshine!
I'm sorry to hear that your anxiety has been affecting you so much. Moving to a new school can cause anxiety in many people. I was really anxious on my first day of middle school, as I left my primary school at the end of Year 6 and was starting at a new school in Year 7. I didn't know anyone, and I was a very shy and awkward 12 year old! If you're moving there for Year 9 or above, then there won't be as many new people, but that's okay. That way, people may make more of an effort to get to know you. It was like that at my school anyway.
Okay, on to the advice! Have you seen your GP in the past about your anxiety? Make an appointment a little before you start at your new school, to ask for advice and talk through any problems you are particularly concerned about. Talking to your parents can also help too. My Mum has always been there for me, and I would not be as happy and healthy as I am now without having her here to talk to.
Regarding this girl who you say you hate, try to be as calm and non-reactionary as possible. So, if she does or says something that irritates you, don't react. I don't know about the type of relationship you have with her, but if she is rude or mean to you, don't let her work you up and get angry or upset in front of her. It's okay to cry or have a reaction in private, as bottling up feelings is not healthy. People who bully or hurt others are usually looking for a reaction from the person. If you don't react and don't give her the attention she is probably wanting, then she will get bored and might stop bothering you.
Sorry if I have the wrong idea about why you find this girl hard to get along with. If you have more you want to say, feel free to post back 🙂
Best wishes,
SM
