finding it hard to cope

[dazedandconfused15]

Hi all,

I am currently finding it very hard to cope with my everyday life. It seems as though everything i do is pointless or a waste of time. I have no motivation for my studies or my work. Getting out of bed everyday is a struggle. I find to be second guessing myself with everything i think or say, i even find my self thinking that people i should be the closest to are against and would like nothing better than to see me fail at everything i try. i have no one to talk to this stuff about, my parents live over 300 kilometers away from and being a 20 year old male it feels like it is something none of friends would understand or want to talk about. i just want to start feeling better about myself as a person, as i'm not sure how much longer i can go on feeling worthless everyday.

regards, 

A broken and lost man. 

[white knight]

Hi D and C, welcome here to Beyond Blue forums

I cant talk for everyone but I do think that for most sufferers of a mental illness, in the beginning before diagnosis, they, we, didnt think we had one. We feel still intelligent a little over emotional etc but a mental illness? surely not.

And this is why it is so important you go to you GP because your symptoms reflect what we talk about here on a daily basis.

Your symptoms may well be temporary. Treatment might simply be therapy for a short time depending.  Please dont ignore these feelings you have.

Many of us here are living proof of successfully managing our illness to live fruitful and good lives. but we cannot and should not think it will fix itself.

Take care. Feel free to reply anytime.

[AGrace]

Hi dazedandconfused15,

Welcome to the forums. I hope you will find most of us here can relate to how you feel and have had similar thoughts to yours. Often this can make it easier to talk with others. The forums are a really safe and non-judgemental space, so do feel free to talk about whatever you wish.

As WK has said, many of us start out not knowing if we have a mental illness, or whether we're just facing another one of life's challenges. I like to take into consideration the frequency and intensity of symptoms. If you have been feeling as you do for some time, and it's affecting your daily life, then it's definitely worth consulting a GP about.

If you don't have a GP you can visit, there's a list of GPs who specialise in Mental Health on Beyondblue's website. Make an appointment to get a Mental Health Assessment done. From here you can find out whether you feel it would benefit to see a Psychologist so you can talk about your experiences and get some strategies to manage your symptoms, or whether you also think you might need the support of some medication.

I'd also say that mental health is much more talked about in society today, although I'm aware that there is still a lack of understanding from a lot of people. You might like to pick at least one friend that you can have a chat with. Perhaps even pose it as a question for them ("Have you ever had any troubles with mental health before?") before you start baring your soul to them. Sometimes we can be pleasantly surprised. Usually everyone has either had personal experience, or knows someone who has experienced mental health issues before, after all it affects 1/4 of the population, and that number is higher in males. A good friend will want to know what you're going through and support you.

I hope we too can continue to offer you as much support as we can.

AGrace