Completely confused

[Spence01]

I moved to Australia feb 2015, in march I met my boyfriend and we have been together ever since. We have been engaged since march this year. The problem is I am overwhelmingly homesick, to the point where I have told him when my visa expires I will be returning home.

As soon as the words were out of my mouth I was heartbroken, and he was also devastated. We have been arguing a lot and I have been miserable here, feeling very alone a lot of the time. And he has said that he wouldn't be prepared to move back to my home country which makes me feel like he doesn't care as much as I do. But I still don't know if I'm making the right decision by leaving because I do love him so much.

[Touille]

Hey Spence,

Welcome to the forum.

So, where you from originally?

I dated a girl in Canada and was willing to locate as I had lived there 2 years before we met, but sadly it didn't work out.

For love to work, you both must be willing to compromise and come to some agreement. Ask yourselves, If You went home for a visit, maybe you would feel better.

Do you love for person enough to sacrifice to live here and just visit your home country? Really, it shouldn't matter where you live if you are with the person you are meant to be with.

I know it's hard, but you have to really think it through.

Touille.

[Spence01]

Hi touille,

youre definitely right in what you're saying. It shouldn't matter where we live, I'm just finding it difficult because it feels like there's no right answer. I'm sad being away from family but I'd be sad being away from my partner. I think it's something I really have to think about but at the moment it's getting me down because I will feel guilty either way.

Im from Wales originally.

Spence01

[geoff]

hello Spence, I'm sorry but 'you're caught between a rock and a hard place', because one way or another someone is going to lose out.
I used to get homesick thinking that I was missing Mum and Dad, but when we went away on a holiday I still got homesick, so it wasn't that I was missing them, but missing my room and familiar surroundings.
Is it possible to be able to talk to your family on skype on a weekly/daily basis so that you could still be with your b/friend, because what will happen is that if you do return home you will be no different than you feel now, because you will be missing your b/friend, and that's why it's called 'caught between a rock and a hard place'. Geoff.x