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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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shadybananallama I just want friends, not foes
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hello diddlio strangerinos! this is my first ever time talking about myself with such vulnerability and openness but I feel as if it is time for me to address my undiagnosed issue. As I age I feel like I might be losing my mind, being only 19, my age... View more

hello diddlio strangerinos! this is my first ever time talking about myself with such vulnerability and openness but I feel as if it is time for me to address my undiagnosed issue. As I age I feel like I might be losing my mind, being only 19, my age group is know for its loudness, its partying and is the end of our free trial and where we go off to university and have the time of our lives but I just sit here avoiding the best years of my life because I only have a few good days a year and I don't want them to run out or be wasted on the people who've tormented me for years; but all I feel is this overwhelming tiredness and heaviness that I can't shake, as if darkness is consuming my life and my body feeling more like a prison rather than something that defines me. To me my life seems like a candle that is used during those stormy nights or a flame with a short wick, I try and fight the winds of a storm as if I'm not to disappoint the people who have tried to keep my alight, only to be blown out by one off them. I just needed to vent, I'm sorry

Peart my depression is ruining my relationship
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I was diagnosed with severe depression and currently going to group therapy, will change to individual therapy soon. Recently I feel like my depression has been negatively affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. We've been dating and living toge... View more

I was diagnosed with severe depression and currently going to group therapy, will change to individual therapy soon. Recently I feel like my depression has been negatively affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. We've been dating and living together for 1.5 years and we're both studying working at the moment. Especially, we're both in the final year of our degrees so it's been very hectic with finding jobs and studying at the same time so we can't really afford to spend much quality time together. Before I found out I had depression, whenever we had differences it was just an argument. However, now we usually have fights and the shouting comes mostly from me. He's a very supportive partner although sometimes he can be a bit insensitive. It is just that he's so busy with his work and study that he can't tend to me as much as he used to. I understand that. But also because of this I get irritated very often as I have very few friends and can't share my feelings with anyone. As a result, every time he does something that's not the way I want, I get in my mood, blow it up on him and my depression starts telling me to break up. I even proposed breakup several times and he got very upset whenever I did. Fortunately he never takes it seriously. We make up eventually but I feel very bad. I feel he deserves a better happy me but this depression frustrates me so much. I can say sorry but I feel like it's never enough and as I am a very stubborn person I don't want to go against what I've said. I'm just full of conflicts.

Amy2 Bringing Back the past...
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Hi, I'm 16 years old. Today I had witnessed a year 7 getting harassed, bullied and abused at school. When I saw that my heart suddenly dropped. It brought back back my past. I had to do something so I stood up for her.. Yeah! it sounds pretty lame me... View more

Hi, I'm 16 years old. Today I had witnessed a year 7 getting harassed, bullied and abused at school. When I saw that my heart suddenly dropped. It brought back back my past. I had to do something so I stood up for her.. Yeah! it sounds pretty lame me standing up to a group of year 7s. but, I didn't want her to grow up the way I did. (scared to go to school and felt completely alone). She just said to me "don't worry about it, i'm used to it". Since I was angry I had to say something to those brats. So I told them what I thought. Yeah it got me into trouble. But, I used to wish people would've stood up for me. Because I was quiet and shy like her. No one has the right to bully someone just because they've a disability. What is this world coming to? she obviously has a disability but that is what makes her unique, hearing aids are a cool thing. You never bully someone no matter what they did because you don't know what they're going through. And it will lead to mental illnesses later in life. TRUST ME!! I admit my past stuffed me up and I can't watch a happy little girl turn into someone like me. If you ever pick on someone or do something to hurt them mentally or physically than your a coward. She is now safe and sound with the wellbeing team, and I feel glad for telling someone. If you guys are getting bullied stand up before its to late. Because your all beautiful people and you deserve to be happy.

Scorpion Friends ignoring me
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Not sure what to do. My friends are annoyed with me about something (I think its a small thing) and since Monday they have ignored me or only sometimes reply. We play games online together but I have not been able to play with them since Saturday bec... View more

Not sure what to do. My friends are annoyed with me about something (I think its a small thing) and since Monday they have ignored me or only sometimes reply. We play games online together but I have not been able to play with them since Saturday because they won't let me join and ignore me when I try and get invited. Should I give up? (they are the only friends I have and I struggle with making friends and talking to people) Or wait it out? (its been five days now)

gy96 Not sure what to do
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I'm 21. I've never been properly diagnosed with depression or anxiety, but I'm pretty sure I suffer from both. When I was younger I tried to ignore the fact that I could have depression or anxiety so I never saw a professional. After a long trip from... View more

I'm 21. I've never been properly diagnosed with depression or anxiety, but I'm pretty sure I suffer from both. When I was younger I tried to ignore the fact that I could have depression or anxiety so I never saw a professional. After a long trip from being away from my family and then coming back I knew I had to get my life sorted out and began going to a different GP than my family one. At first I started with any health concerns I had. I never paid attention to any health issues I had. I wanted to avoid them...but I did mention how down I felt, how I couldn't sleep regularly since coming back from my trip. How I wanted to give up my casual job because I was bad at it. I'm now going to a psychologist but I've only been there once. I've never been to a psychologist so I'm not sure what to expect. I just have no clue where to start anymore. I'm at a complete loss. Health issues whether mental or not are so scary. I can't sleep at night. I need to sleep with someone nowadays. I feel pathetic, useless, helpless.

ashleighhh97 I can't hold down a job... (BPD? ASD?)
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I'm 19 years old, I've been in the workforce since I was 15, and so far I've had four jobs, all with considerable spaces between them. My first job was at a supermarket and I basically got bullied out of there after five months. The second and longes... View more

I'm 19 years old, I've been in the workforce since I was 15, and so far I've had four jobs, all with considerable spaces between them. My first job was at a supermarket and I basically got bullied out of there after five months. The second and longest job I had was McDonald's from March 2015 to June 2016, but I barely worked the last six months because they'd keep rostering me on when I was at uni, and I ended up getting fired because they thought I was stealing money from the registers (a couple months ago they found out who it actually was and they didn't even apologize at all, I found out from my brother who's friend worked with me there). Then I worked as a bartender at a bar/hotel which I got fired from over email because they found someone to take my place (WTF?!). Now I'm in retail and my employment just got suspended because I cancel too many shifts, but I have lupus (I get treatment on Wednesdays) and I'm appealing my driver's license suspension (the suspension started five months after an inpatient treatment at a psychiatric hospital, and it's gonna continue until I'm 'cured', nothing like that has ever happened before, and nothing has ever happened since), I tell them not to put me on specific days but they do. I have high functioning autism, BPD, depression, and anxiety. Am I just not noticing what I'm doing wrong? I don't see anything wrong with myself or employers apart from what I've just listed. I do my very best, I always take shifts when they need me too unless I'm in hospital. Anyone else had similar experiences?

maygirl Struggling to find my place
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I am 22 and I have been struggling for the last 2 months in particular, but am really feeling now I am close to breaking point. Have moved to Darwin for work, leaving my mum and brothers and close friends behind. This time last year i was the fittest... View more

I am 22 and I have been struggling for the last 2 months in particular, but am really feeling now I am close to breaking point. Have moved to Darwin for work, leaving my mum and brothers and close friends behind. This time last year i was the fittest at my work, I had energy. Now, I struggle to get out of bed and shower everyday, I have no interest in keeping fit anymore. I find excuses to not go to work. My partner of 12 months works away during the week, and I am told to stop comparing myself to couples that have sex. I want to move back home to family but feel like i would regret leaving a stable job and would be judged for going back to live with my mum. My relationship has fallen apart, I hate my job and I don't know what the purpose of anything is anymore. I have seen mental health professionals and they just tell me it's a 'phase'. i've never had any history of health issues, i've lived with my body for the last 22 years... i know something is not right with me.

Liv_ I feel so alone. I cannot deal with the stresses of relationships and school work.
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I'm 15 and have two younger siblings, one being 13 and one being 10. My relationships with my parents was always healthy until the past two years where things started to get hard and school began to get stressful. My sister has always been very smart... View more

I'm 15 and have two younger siblings, one being 13 and one being 10. My relationships with my parents was always healthy until the past two years where things started to get hard and school began to get stressful. My sister has always been very smart, sporty, popular and perfect and my brother is the nicest person and most popular person you will ever meet. I am not the smartest and I really struggle to make friends. I feel like my parents have been totally rejecting me. They never talk to me anymore and refuse to help me with anything. I feel so alone at home. My parents are so disappointed in me but I don't think I have done anything wrong. My siblings always sticks up for me but my parents always dismiss me. Recently I have been arguing a lot at home, especially with my dad. He always tells me I'm not good enough and I need to get my act together like my siblings. I'm trying so hard but I feel like I can't deal with the stress of relationships at school, extra curricular activities and trying to keep up with all my school work. My parents also don't understand school life, they always shout at me and take my computer away which is making studying almost impossible. School life is getting really difficult. I used to have so many friends but now I just have vague friends who I sit with a lunchtimes but know no one notices if I don't turn up at school. My best friend moved to boarding school and my old boyfriend moved overseas. It's hard because I used to have so many close friends that just drifted away from me. I have never felt more alone but I'm too scared to talk to anyone and I feel like I have no one to talk to and everyone will judge me. I'm so sick of crying myself to sleep every night. But I also feel so guilty for feeling so sad as I am so privileged, I go to a private school and deep down I know my family love me. I just wish things were easier. I don't think I'm depressed because I do manage to find enjoyment on everyday activities but at the same time I find myself crying quite often. Sorry for the rant, I just feel alone.

Nancyyy What happen to me? :'(
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I don't wanna go home tonight! I had bursted my anger last night with my sister for no reasons. I am not sure why i was so angry and feel so annoyed when she wake me up and tell me something. Then i just cried and no one seem to understand and i mayb... View more

I don't wanna go home tonight! I had bursted my anger last night with my sister for no reasons. I am not sure why i was so angry and feel so annoyed when she wake me up and tell me something. Then i just cried and no one seem to understand and i maybe dont understand as well. So i didnt feel well this whole day and now its time to leave school and go home but i dont wanna to. I called and lie to my aunt that im going out with my friend. But in fact im not going out i stayed inside my car and writing this shit. I plan to go back home later at night. I moved abroad to study and live with my sister. I havent talked to my parents for six months now i love them so much but i dont know why i dont make the call. To me i dont have any friends here. Im just by myself. I want to just disappear but i am not a suicidal. I just want to move somewhere that i dont know anyone at all and no one know me either. I dont know.. i have goal that i want to focus on sometimes i just work so hard to make it happen and totally leave other things behind. These day i feel that i forgot how to be happy, maybe im not sure who am i anymore.

Donnac The longer my mental health goes the more people disappear
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Hi there this is my first posting however I contacted beyond blue recently. I've used every resource possible to help with my depression and without beyond blue (albeit my last resource, feels like my only resource left). My amazing husband of 27 yea... View more

Hi there this is my first posting however I contacted beyond blue recently. I've used every resource possible to help with my depression and without beyond blue (albeit my last resource, feels like my only resource left). My amazing husband of 27 years (childhood sweethearts), has run out of steam. He has always tried to 'fix' me. I've lost many so called 'friends' and fair weather friends have let me down recently at work! My parents are quick to get off phone incase I mention my mental health and I'm very alone! I'm not sure I feel the way I do since switching medication only two weeks ago. I had a colleague (thought we were friends as suffer mh too) email me and shout that I'm permanently off work and that everyone takes the slack for me!! Well I didn't need this just after changing medication. I've made a mental note to not talk about my illnesses (keeping the stigma alive) and only discuss with my community mental health nurse and beyond blue. I even feel my doctor sighs when he sees me. Can I just be me around the ones I love and leave my mood disorders for the professionals?? Btw I do yin yoga, meditation, exercise regularly and eat healthily. Never put weight on and take antidepressants too. Anyone have similar issues with approx 14 years of ptsd, anxiety and major depression? Warm regards Donna