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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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yesse I hate myself
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ive had depression for many years now at first due to bullying and more recently due to the loss of my mother. Over the years i have come to hate myself. Everything i do or say i regret. This might be because i failed school, blaming myself for my mo... View more

ive had depression for many years now at first due to bullying and more recently due to the loss of my mother. Over the years i have come to hate myself. Everything i do or say i regret. This might be because i failed school, blaming myself for my mother leaving me or the fact that that this depression cripples me and i know that all im doing is feeling sorry for myself and i hate it. Either way all i want, i hope for is a connection. Id take any type of connection. Obviously id prefer one with a girl as its easier to talk about deep stuff like this rather then with "the boys", but basically why i started this thread was to ask this How can you develop a connection when you hate yourself? People say that to attract people you have to be confident in yourself and have the same type of energy they want to be around. Which is usually happy, enthusiastic, fun etc. And when i have my low days which outnumber the high days by far how am i suppose to give off this aura which any person would be attracted too. Obviously i use a facade like most people do with depression do with their friends and social life, but when i mean a connection im talking about a true one where your on the same page as the other person. There is a lot more depth to my story but i dont want my whinging to bore people and take away from my initial idea of how it is possible to develop a deep connection when you dont like yourself at all. Thanks for reading. SIMILAR THREADS I hate myself

Rebelcat011 Family
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Please help me, l feel like my family is drifting apart. I can't talk to my parents anymore, and we don't spend time togethet anymore either. What can l do to fix this?

Please help me, l feel like my family is drifting apart. I can't talk to my parents anymore, and we don't spend time togethet anymore either. What can l do to fix this?

Songerdomi Boyfriend broke up with me: he is grieving and has depression
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Seeing boyfriend for a few months long distance. Went on holidays and met up with him in France, we had a beautiful time and then his mother unexpectedly died. I supported him but had to leave him. When I got home he met me within two hours of being ... View more

Seeing boyfriend for a few months long distance. Went on holidays and met up with him in France, we had a beautiful time and then his mother unexpectedly died. I supported him but had to leave him. When I got home he met me within two hours of being in the country. He told me everything would be alright as he had me. I saw him again and when I was to visit him again. A few days before, he sent me an email telling me he couldn’t be in a relationship right now and wasn’t coping with grief and depression. That he couldn’t consider someone normal like me loving him. That he needed to love himself first, clear his mind before going forward and having a normal relationship. I said I accepted and respected what he said and set him free. He then sent me a few messages which I responded to politely. After silence for 2 weeks, I touched base. He responded saying my email made him smile. A couple of days later he contacted me telling me he hadn’t left the house for nearly a month and that for the past two weeks not one person contacted him and that wasn’t a great when having depression. He told me he was going to France see family as he needed help. He told me he wanted to call me the next day but then he was too busy with friends getting wasted it wasn’t a good time to call. I sent a message, I understood and that all that mattered to me was he was going home to his family. In transit he sent email thanking me for my love. 2 weeks On I touched base. he responded saying he was unable to respond to any emails since he left Australia. Then he received mine with no questions or judgment. Since being home I was all around him. He told me he wished he had met me years ago before he had demons. That he shouldn’t have let me into his life and didn’t expect to get attached. He wrote reality: delete my number, forget me, the better it will be for me. That he spent the evening eating my favourite food, thinking of me all night and to keep that as our last happy memories together. I tried calling, no answer. I sent him an email saying that I was very worried he wanted to disappear. I said I would go quite for a bit but I would not forget him and that I loved him very much. i am extremely worried and am considering going to see him. I feel I have respected him wanting space but he is getting worse. I could wait until he returns to Australia but I’m unsure when that is. I’m afraid he is alone, that France would fix him. i don’t know what to do.......

AGentleSoul Just need to talk
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Hi Everyone, I wasn't to sure which section to post in, so I apologize if this is the wrong area. Lately, life is getting really hard for me. I have been finding it hard to relax and have been quite down and stressed out. I have stuffed up my friends... View more

Hi Everyone, I wasn't to sure which section to post in, so I apologize if this is the wrong area. Lately, life is getting really hard for me. I have been finding it hard to relax and have been quite down and stressed out. I have stuffed up my friendship with my friend because I was to needy and pushy and I am currently unemployed but I am waiting for my security licence to get approved. However, it just sucks dealing with my job provider, which I have been forced to go on a course for. I am not trying to gain sympathy I just needed to get it off chest! I can't go to my psychologist because they are on holidays till may. I just feel like I have stuffed everything up! My friendship and finding work. I wish I could fix it.

imogen56 Any personality quizzes such as the Myers Briggs test or ways to understand what I'm feeling emotionally so I understand myself more?
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Hi all, I feel like I don't know myself at all and get very confused at what I'm feeling emotionally. Does anyone know any quizzes to understand my personality more? Or even just a way to figure out my emotions (which I find incredibly hard to deciph... View more

Hi all, I feel like I don't know myself at all and get very confused at what I'm feeling emotionally. Does anyone know any quizzes to understand my personality more? Or even just a way to figure out my emotions (which I find incredibly hard to decipher as they seem to jumble together)? Thanks, Imogen

Mitch112 Mitch.H. - feel free to jump in
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I'm 23 and kind of looking for some people I can talk with and get to know also provide help and guidance to eachother. The site is set up kind of odd. But If you'd like to post in this thread and are of similar age. Feel free. I kind of dont know wh... View more

I'm 23 and kind of looking for some people I can talk with and get to know also provide help and guidance to eachother. The site is set up kind of odd. But If you'd like to post in this thread and are of similar age. Feel free. I kind of dont know where to post haha.. thanks guys. Mitch

Jeevesbe Just done with everything
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Today I turned 18 and I'm in my last year of High school, after getting no support from the school with my anixety and depression even at the worst of times I relyed on my friends too much and now they have given up on me aswell and even tell me to q... View more

Today I turned 18 and I'm in my last year of High school, after getting no support from the school with my anixety and depression even at the worst of times I relyed on my friends too much and now they have given up on me aswell and even tell me to quit school so their scores don't get marked down at all, so I quit that school but now the new school I was ment to start at says I can't change schools mid year and as such I'm a giant ball of stress sitting up at 1 in the morning crying for the first time in 4 years because I have no clue what to do and am just so done with people and yet crave attention and just can't deal with anything anymore, no job, no school, no friends I have nothing and honestly don't know what to do

Kenzi Friends?
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I have just come out of secondary college (where I hadn't made any friends) and am now in a Gap Year, and constantly feeling like alone because I've hardly talk to anyone outside my family for over two years now. So please help me.

I have just come out of secondary college (where I hadn't made any friends) and am now in a Gap Year, and constantly feeling like alone because I've hardly talk to anyone outside my family for over two years now. So please help me.

Chloemoana HELP! Depression & Anxiety becoming too much!
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Hi guys, I'm feeling very lost at the moment. I am 21 years old and in the past year have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Trying to deal with this and also work full time in a very fast paced environment is HARD! I have just had the past ... View more

Hi guys, I'm feeling very lost at the moment. I am 21 years old and in the past year have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Trying to deal with this and also work full time in a very fast paced environment is HARD! I have just had the past 3 weeks on holiday and it seems that even on day 1 I was still thinking about work and how stressful it is and how much I hate it and dont want to go back. I couldn' even enjoy my time off work. i guess I'm just asking for input into different career pathways for someone like me? I am looking at studying social work via online study, therefore I will need a job to work during the day. Any suggestions or help would be greatly appreciated. I've found myself having panic attacks almost everyday. (Already on antidepressants). Thanks so much Chloe

notkeepingup First post here, hello
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Hi, my problem is a mix of social anxiety and feeling disconnected from others. Right now, I have only 1 close friend and a few other more distant friends that I can't really connect to, since we don't really hang out together. They are really outgoi... View more

Hi, my problem is a mix of social anxiety and feeling disconnected from others. Right now, I have only 1 close friend and a few other more distant friends that I can't really connect to, since we don't really hang out together. They are really outgoing, and I have a hard time keeping up with them with my personality. We don't really have much in common either, girls my age are talking about boys and clubbing, and I can't really connect to this. I try to make friends in my classes, however, I have a hard time keeping the conversation going after the initial - what are you studying, what's your name, stuff like this. Because of this, people lose interest in me after a short while and I don't make any meaningful relationships. This leads me to feel alone and depressed more often than not. I'm a student so I find that when I feel down, I start to procrastinate and this affects my studies in a very negative way. I'm getting to the point where I feel like I'm going to have to fake being outgoing, however, this is harder than it sounds. I don't really know any topics to talk about with people, and I don't know how to further expand on conversation topics. Everyone is making new friends, while I feel very isolated socially. I also would like to connect more with my outgoing friends, but I have no idea how to do so, since we are so different and I'm afraid it'll just end up extremely awkward. I'd love to overcome my social anxiety, and if anyone can relate to this, please let me know! I feel very stuck right now, at a stage in my life where I should be enjoying myself and having fun with friends, but due to my anxiety and personality, I'm finding it very hard to do so.