How to deal with losing friends and being left alone

[alibrandayy17]

hiii

yeh basically right now i have no friends that genuinely like me. I had a group that i thought i really could spend the rest of high school with. little did i know someones opinion of me could change the way the whole group thought of me, let alone most of the year level. ive been feeling very depressed even before i moved schools and only recently have i been getting anxious during school.

yeh. i just dont know what to do right now. im currently trying to spend my time at lunch in the library and the other day i spent it in the sick bay, and ended up spending the rest of the day talking to the school psychologist and spending time in the office space where there are activities to practice mindfulness. just been an overall s**t year so far and not enjoying anything. family is bad as well.

ughh

[Ggrand]

Hello alibrandayy,

Welcome to BB Forums, This is a caring, supportive and friendly community.I hope that writing down your story has helped in some way. Writing your first post is a first step in reaching out to others. Well done for achieving this.

Can I say how sorry I am that it's taken so long for you to get a reply..Sometimes the posts get pushed back..This is no reflection on you. I don't know why it happens but it does and I'm sorry.

Im sorry your struggling so hard with depression and your friends..

I think it's a good idea to keep talking with your schools psychologist..

Have you spoken to your parents about how your feeling and what's going on at school and your depression. . Maybe they can help.

Do other kids have lunch in the library, maybe you can have lunch together and new friendships can me made..

Im probably not much help, but I posted here to bump your thread forward I'm sure someone with more insight will be able to advise you better then I can,,

I wish only the best for you..keep talking here if you feel to.

kind thoughts

Grandy..

[PamelaR]

Hello alibrandayy

Thankfully Grandy has welcomed you to the forums.

Yes, sometimes posts do get missed. Sorry about that, as Grandy said, it's no reflection on you.

Can you tell us a little more about yourself? That's if you want to of course - no pressure. Things like - what sports do you like, which subjects do you like best?

Also, you talk about things not being very good at home. Has this always been the case? Or has something happened recently to cause this?

I remember school being a very hard place. Making friends was not always that easy. It was hard work. Friendships just don't happen. You are sounding very lonely at the moment. Have you had a look at Headspace or the eHeadspace websites? These may provide some practical information you can use to help you through this year.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[kanga_brumby]

Welcome alibrandayy17 to beyond blue forums, another welcome from another lunch time library hider. There are quite a few of us about. So don't feel your all alone please. It took years for me to get out of the library. Like I am now in my early 60's. After leaving school I did chance to meet several school class mates. And become really good mates. Fishing camping etc. Unfortunately time has taken a few but at the same time brought in replacements. It will do that to you so try to be good to yourself. learn to bend with the turning of time. Friends come and go. Family will eventually go in time but they are there. Be with the ones who are there. Each of us has skills find out what peoples skills are and use them wisely not abusively and let them use your skills equally. Don't say or think so and so owes this or that. Unless there is a signed contract. Real friends don't keep a running sheet on who has done what and put a $ value to it.

Kanga