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Hi, this is my first post, I'm not sure what I'm doing but I'm here to try something new anyway.
- I'm a lost soul and in a way I think I always have been but recently I've been feeling down so much more. I'm in my 50s, live alone and don't have much of a social life. I have no kids, my only family are my 80 something parents and an older brother who is currently in remission from blood cancer. I'm scared that one day they'll be gone (it's inevitable of course) and I'll be on my own with nobody to grow old with. I recently broke up with my perfect match after a 3 year relationship, the main obstacle was she lives in NZ and the airport goodbyes were getting harder and harder everytime.. we both work full time so it was always 2 wonderful weeks together every 6 months or so before one of us would have to leave. Sadly the expense, our mental health and emotional well-being was getting too hard to take so I decided to walk away.. now I'm feeling completely lost and alone, today especially is a teary day for me. I feel so bad that I broke her heart and in the process broke my own heart as well which I never wanted to experience again after my only marriage ended in divorce several years earlier 💔 But it's not the only reason I'm sad, deep down I've always felt sad about life, I've never loved life really. I've loved a lot of moments in my life but once I'm home and on my own I just feel lost again. Anyway, I'm not sure what more to say right now, I'm just hoping to get through one day at a time, I'm not sure I've ever been so low as I am right now 🤧😢
- So hello Beyond Blue, hopefully someone here can help me with my mid life blues 💙
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You have done something I dont have the courage to do. Walk away from girlfriend because emotionally it was too hard. I was only thinking last night why I dont have that courage with my Thai friend. I understand about the deep hurt you feel you caused her. I know you reached out for help but I am awe struck by your strength. For me Im angry at myself for getting involved and feeling hurt again. Time will help us both.
I mean what I said that i am in awe.
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Hi there op .
So sorry about where your at but l'm really glad you've come here and talked , hope it can help a little as you go.
l'm wondering though , so you and the gf couldn't close the gap or manged more time or worked on it it somehow or ? lt's just that it sounded really nice apart from that and the things it's been causing as is.
l've been in LD nearly 6yrs myself after divorce earlier too but it's also a complicated story entwined. Basically though on the surface, we've both been coming and going from Sydney to vic or vise versa near 6yrs now. Unfortunately well, we've both had troubles from that angle but much more so her bc of her whole situation right through, plus mh plus serious anxiety and health problems from that.
Atm she's also decided it's too much and added to us also passing the 5yrs mark, for her it was just all taking it's toll and atm unfortunately she's also decided it's too much.
Just thought it might help knowing your not alone and life is pretty much the same for me to atm . l do have big plans though first of is in moving now but at the same time also open- don't know if l should be though but also still open to us maybe fixing this too at least for now anyway.
My plans are for me too though and not dependent on us getting back together as l know it could go either way.
At any rate, to start with hang in there , sometimes time time time is a wonder drug in itself right.
rx.
