Long story short… if they let me post it… DCP took her from her school almost a month ago, I thought from her mother as she had a lot of issues and history with them. But it turned out, she allegedly said certain things about me, taken out of context, but they assumed the worst. I met with DCP and they said nothing about the more serious allegations, but just asked about what she said that lead to their allegations. I explained the circumstances of things she said, and they seemed to understand (at least they made me think it went ok). I only heard the whole thing from her mother after. She spoke to the girl who confirmed nothing untoward had happened while she was in our care. And she told them that during her supervised visit. At my meeting they told me they are concentrating on family visits only (as we are not technically family), and based on the allegations, it is unlikely we will ever get to see her while she’s in their custody (another 10 years). They will continue to talk to her and if they are convinced there was no real danger (that what she had said really was taken out of context or exaggerated), and if she keeps asking them to let us visit, they might reconsider. But they seem to have made up their minds. Things might be different if her mother gets her act together to provide a stable environment, and fights it in court, but at the moment, she just seems content with just having visits as she knows the foster family and it’s safe. Doesn’t help me, though. Even if she gets her back, I’m sure they’ll still put restrictions on who can see her. I just want things to go back to the way they were. She was happy here. She always got what she wanted. She got away with everything. I couldn’t say no cos she’d do the puppy dog eyes if anyone said no. What I’d give to have her knock on the toilet door and sing “do you want to build a snowman”. I can’t wait 10 years to see her again. Besides, after 10 years, I doubt she would be the same person after bouncing around the system. She saved my life and they took that away, based on seemingly unrelated comments she made at school. I don’t know if they just treat all men as suspicious. I can’t cope with living 10 years without her. 10 years knowing she’s missing us and even she can’t contact us. The only thing I can do is ask her mum to give her a big hug from us to remind her that we still care and would give anything to see her again. But for now, it literally feels like my heart has been ripped out and I’m either crying myself to sleep (when I do get any sleep), or struggling to get up (and walking around all numb when I can get myself our of bed). Plus, I was diagnosed with diabetes about the same time, so that just adds to all my other issues. And, yes, I know she is not my daughter. We were there when she was born. We have looked after her for half her life. She is a daughter to me. And now it almost feels like she has passed away, because of how sudden she was taken from us. I don’t know how to cope. There’s no one in this world that can fill the gap she’s left.
i hope they approve this post this time. I’ve left out a lot because my previous post apparently had too many details about the allegations and other things that were said. I guess if you’re reading this, I managed to censor enough of it.
