Hello Arrow, welcome and thanks for posting your comment.
You certainly do the share of your work, but for yourself, there's no motivation, but by indulging in food and/ alcohol to try and make the problem go away is only making it worse.
When you have to make several large decisions that you have to decide on doing may cause you to wonder which one to choose, so you think you'll do that, but then another thought comes to mind that really should be done, and then a third thought or perhaps a fourth one, instead all you do is open up the refrigerator.
There's no worries if someone wants you to help them, they've made the decision on what to do, not you.
If you have too much going on in your life or trying to take on too much you should list or itemise what you want to do, stick it onto the refrigerator and then cross off when each one has been done.
Start in doing the small items first, because if you start with the difficult ones, something may happen which may stall you and what this will do is make you go and open the refrigerator, in other words, stop.
Motivation comes and goes and if it does go away it will eventually come back, but don't worry or punish yourself if you don't feel like doing anything for a few days, once you do that's when you get caught up thinking negatively, and when this happens depression appears.
Just for interest have you done the K-10 test, it indicates depression and it's on 'The Facts' above, scroll down until you see K-10, try and do it several times but not straight after another, different days and different times.
If it tells you that depression is present, please book an appointment with your doctor.
Geoff.
