New member trying to cope

[74_Big_Dazza]

Hey everyone.

Dazza's the name.

I am a long time sufferer of depression and all the wonderful things associated with it.

It was only in the last 6 months I have been diagnosed and medicated for it and I am not seeing a professional to talk about it.

I am a strong person to the point of being unreasonably stubborn and am not a talker and tend to bottle things up, but I am a great listener.

Not many know of my illness as I am usually the life of the party and a "go to" person for friend's and family.

I also work security in a government building where I have to listen to other people's ordeals all day.

Just joining a group like this is a major step forward for me and something that I never even considered. But things are going downhill

I don't want to kill myself. I just feel like I would be better off not being here.

Having to deal.

I am also married with 4 kids which makes it harder.

I honestly can't pinpoint the trigger for this. It seems to be a whole bunch of things buried and forgotten that have been dug up and one by one shoved in my face.

I don't think I am able to talk p2p so this is probably the best avenue I can walk.

At the least, I have made a step to get involved with people like me.

Good people who don't deserve the hand dealt them and just keep playing the game.

Thanks for having me along.

Big Dazza.

[Doolhof]

Hi Dazza,

It is great you are seeing your Dr again in January, now what to do with December?

-Take one day at a time, don't try to fight all of your battles in one go

-Chat here as much as you want to, venture out into the forum as well if you feel like it and join in with some of the other threads, there is such a variety.

-Realise that depression is a "real" condition, just pulling our socks up doesn't work, we need to acknowledge the illness so we can treat it, live with it, and manage it as best we can with what we have available to us.

-Find something each day to be thankful for.

-Realise that occasions like Christmas can be stressful, cut yourself some slack.

-Find something fun to do.

I will be printing this list out and putting it on my own fridge! Ha. Ha.

Cheers to yyou from Dools

[Mathy]

Hey Big Dazza,

Regarding the quote from your post (below). The Australian College of Psychiatrists have recently stated that they would prefer people with MH problems use e-cigs, if they have trouble quitting tobacco.

I quit a 40 year tobacco habit in June this year, by taking up vaping. It seems that those of us with MH issues are more likely to smoke, which is counter productive, not just from a health point of view, but financially as well.

If you’re interested in researching, then google search Aussie vapers - that should find you the main source of info for this country - friendly forum, with a great section for the newbies, bestest, cheers M 🙂

74 Big Dazza said:

Hey everyone

. He's gonna get cranky when he finds out that I'm back on the cigarettes! 😂

[demonblaster]

Hey Dazza & all

Dools said "-Take one day at a time, don't try to fight all of your battles in one go"

Friend other day spoke about a broken down car.
In order to fix it picturing the parts of it separately around the chassis....windows, engine, seats, wheels etc having multiple parts to it. Point was to fix one thing at a time. GOLD, made a lot of sense.

Mathy not to say this information is correct but within the last year I've heard from few people that E-smokes apparently have been proven not be good for us. I questioned where the information came from & a couple said from scientific research. Again don't know for sure as there can be different agendas from people to start rumours but it was looking that way. Hard to know fact from fiction at times. I'd hope they're ok, fantastic idea.

Hoping your travelling better Dazza 🙂

[Mathy]

Excuse me Dazza (don’t you love the Aussie habit of creating a nickname, hope you don’t mind 🙂 ) I’m just going to reply to DB

DB - you really have to check the research. Aussie College of Psychiatrists probably do know what they’re talking about, used by quit smoking organisations (NHS) in the UK, lots of “junk science” published, 95% safer than smokes, as decided by Public Health UK.

Back to Dazza - I hope today finds you travelling a little better, bestest, cheers M 🙂

[TogALot]

Hi Big Dazza. I can resonate quite well with what you are feeling and going through. I've always been the strong one, helping others at my expense and feeling unable to tell my story. I've only recently joined on here and I find reading some of the personal stories and trials that it helps as I see part of me and realise that if others can open up and make progress, then so can I. As stubborn as you feel you are, you have already taken a big step writing on here and getting feedback from others in a similar situation will help you.

[74_Big_Dazza]

Much thanks to everyone.

Not been around as much as I would like to but last week was a write off for me.

I can't even work out what the trigger was. It started on Monday, coming in waves. By Tuesday it had set in. Thursday afternoon was like that scene in Bill & Ted where they are falling down that hole.

Friday and Saturday were dead set carp.....an absolute mess.

A mate of mine noticed that I looked really tired and not my usual jovial self in passing on Saturday so he sent me a text later that night asking if I was ok.

That's all it took.

A good chat later and finding out that he also suffers with depression, an offer of help and a commitment to each other as back up and support.

We'v been texting each other daily and sending memes and jokes. Anything to get a smile.

Also checking up on each other at the same time.

It has taken a few days for that very low feeling to pass and even though the presence is still there taunting me, I am feeling pretty good because a mate asked me if I was ok.

Thanks guys. 😁

Tell you what.

[Mathy]

Hey Dazza, that’s wonderful!

The old adage, a problem shared is a problem halved.

Really happy for you that you’ve got (and can give) some support from a friend 🙂

Bestest, cheers M 🙂

[demonblaster]

Good news Daz talking to mate & supporting eachother surprising how many know of someone or suffer rot too.

More we talk the more understanding & hoping tolerance support & help

Very happy for you ☺👍

[74_Big_Dazza]

Thanks Mathy.

It feels pretty good and I've only been here a little while but all you guys are amazing 😁

[74_Big_Dazza]

Hey champ.

I just mentioned above the little time I've been a member here and the support I've had.

Fair dinkum!

What a tops bunch of people!

I should have done this years ago.

Still a long ways to go but it's gonna be that little bit easier 😁