Hello Leapfrog, if you trust your wife/husband then there should be no concern looking into their phone etc, there shouldn't be anything to hide, I do realise that privacy may be something you worry about but half of the information wouldn't mean anything to you , it could be about talking to his mates when they can play golf, or any work issues, which wouldn't worry you because it means nothing, but talking to other girls is something he certainly doesn't want you to see.
If I can tell you of another story of a very close friend who worked long hours to benefit his young family, they are now divorced, but what she did was bank a portion of his salary into a private account which he had no idea about and was told that that money was to pay bills, he thought nothing of it.
Once they separated and the settlement was being organised, she bought a new car, expensive toys for the kids, maintenance on the house with supposedly no money.
She had been depositing money into her private a/c, unbeknown to him, and they were meant to be a loving couple.
There would be no problem for you or him (if he knew) to go through their phone if you believe your trust with him has been broken.
Having a mental problem is no excuse for him to do what he has done, instead you get professional help, because what he has done is only temporary and broken the trust with you.
My best.
Geoff. x
