I think I'm suffering from depression

whatswrongwithme
Community Member

Hi there everyone..

I don't really know if i'm doing this right. Its my first time..
I'm a 26 year old female. i got married at years old, then gave birth to a beautiful boy at 21. My husband and I then had a divorce when i was 23 so my life has been a roller coaster since then. Early last year, i met a beautiful man, and we quickly got with each other and everything was sunshine a rainbows and i finally thought like my life was finally clear and everything made sense. Fast forward ten months, I've accidentally fallen pregnant.. What was my decision upon finding out that.. - to the abortion clinic i go.
It was my first ever abortion.. and i didn't think that it would affect me.. 2 weeks after the abortion I've become completely flat. I'm miserable.. I've lost all self esteem and my partner and i cant seem to go a day without arguing. I cry about everything.. and its really taking a toll on my life and my relationship.

I don't know how to help fix the situation..

Thank you for reading my thread, i hope everyone is enjoying their day.

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Hang10
Community Member

Hi Whatwrongwithme.

Welcome to the Beyond Blue family, First up I like to say how brave and strong you are. I am a male but can only image how abortions are emotional and very draining. Your life is changed so much form it. The family of Beyond Blue might be able to give you leads to get some professional help for you and your partner. To help deal with the emotions of it all. I no expert but I think in some ways you might have PTSD. This abortion experience has affect you so greatly. I wish you and your partner the best. Look after each other as you had great love and still can.

All the very best

Hang10.

Thanks Hang10.
He is definitely a great catch. And the jokes he makes are what used to be brushed off easily by me because i know he is only joking. But now, I've become really sensitive to everything that comes out of his mouth..and i feel like it's pushing him away.
I guess i can only think positive and try take it day by day.

therising
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi whatswrongwithme

Whether a pregnancy is terminated naturally (miscarriage) or otherwise, hormones can be a factor in regard to how women are left to feel. There may be an adjustment period which your body may need to go through. On the other hand, if the termination has triggered a lot of unexpected painful thoughts, a supported return to mental well-being should be given strong consideration. If grief is a factor, it's important the grief is worked through in order to avoid the threat of long term depression.

Wondering if the clinic you attended offer follow up care in the way of information or support, such as counselling. If you feel like you can't return there, for one reason or another, making an appointment with your GP would be a good idea. It's important that you find the support you need so you don't have to experience this time of your life without positive constructive guidance.

It's definitely tough when we're dealing with huge challenges/changes. Whether those challenges or changes involve mind, body or spirit (our sense of connection), or all 3, we can be left feeling seriously disorientated. Guidance is key.

Take care whatswrongwithme