Hello

[lannamc]

Hi, I’m new here but have read the forum and visited this website many times. I have finally found the courage to join up..and out of desperation as my mental health problems are escalating rapidly due to Covid and my ongoing life situations.

I’m a single mum of four after finding the courage to leave a two decade long marriage after years of abuse. A few years ago I met someone and we have taken it slowly - very slowly as he lives in UK. The border closures and lockdown have been very difficult (as I know they have been to many many others), especially as this means I am now indefinitely separated from my partner.

I would like to be able to give as many of you any help or support that I can. I am reaching out for some advice in the relationship section, but I am genuinely keen to give as much as I can.

thanks for having me x

[Ggrand]

Hello Iannamc..

Welcome to the Beyond Blue Forums..

I am so pleased that you found the courage to post here..It is very brave of you as the first post is incredibly hard..

i really admire people like you..getting the strength and courage to leave an abusive marriage...I was to scared to leave mine (38yrs) which I am did survive, looking back I dont understand how...I did, you did and we are survivors...

I’m sorry I can’t offer any suggestions in your relationship troubles..I so much wish I could..I have only been married the once and now not interested to find a partner out of fear from my abusive marriage...

I am so very happy that you have found a wonderful caring partner..You so much deserve it...I am also sorry that you have been separated from him...

Someone with insight into long distance relationships hopefully will call in to chat to you with suggestions..

Sending you my kindest caring thoughts..

Grandy..

[lannamc]

Hi Grandy, thank you so much for your lovely welcome and for your kind words and support.

I am sorry that you have also suffered through an abusive marriage, but I’m so happy for you to have left that and to be moving forward as I know how terrifying it is and how much courage and strength is takes to take those steps.

It’s absolutely fine that you don’t have any advice re my current relationship issues, just your lovely words of support is more than enough.
Thank you again and I hope you are managing okay. xx

[Emmen]

Hello lannamc,

I'm so, so sorry about what you're going through. My partner and I had a long-distance relationship and moved in together before the border closures. We've been incredibly lucky, but my heart truly breaks every time I hear of couples being torn from each other this way.

I just want to tell you how much I admire your strength. I know it would have taken a huge toll on my mental health if I were separated from my partner and I think you're incredibly brave to come here and help others while you're struggling yourself.

I hope you'll be reunited with him soon. In these times, I truly believe hope is the best friend we have. Despite all the challenges you're facing this year, don't despair and give up on your relationship because, as trying as this time is, it's temporary.

If you ever need to talk or vent, I'd be happy to hear you out on this thread.

Warmly,
M